Archive for March 2014


A better idea


Someone wrote…

I was sure for a long time that I was a girl. Everyone would say, oh you look so nice in that dress, and wow you look so pretty with long hair.

My gender is still a work in progress. I’m no longer sure but I’ve got a better idea. Some days I still can’t decide but that’s alright. I’m living how I want and that is what’s important after all.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 30th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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What do you see?


 

Submitted by B. Renee Blatchley, the model and photographer.

“Am I a Woman?
Am I a Man?

Could I be Either?
Could I be Both?
Could I be Neither?

I know who I am;
Is that what you see?”

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Posted by on March 29th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Duality


Someone wrote…

My life has turned into a sociological experiment. Due to the need to hide my transgender nature five decades ago, I grew up and developed one public identity (male) while privately nurturing another (female).

Recently, I created and developed a public female identity that, online, has many friends. So, in essence, I now have dual public gender-identities. I post on my blog in both identities and have asked readers how they perceive me.

Interestingly, they see an individual — the same person. The only difference they note is the external cloaking of clothing.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 28th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Alley Cat


 

Submitted by Ally (Shybiker), the model and photographer.

“A friend of mine made this animal-hat with attached paws and gave it to me.  I like how it expands people’s view of me: I’m not just a male lawyer; I’m not just a motorcyclist; I’m a ferociously cute animal!”

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Posted by on March 27th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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l’ain freefall


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“l’ain freefall for Art Comes First – outtake from shoot in London, 2013. photo – David Pattinson”

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Posted by on March 26th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Transboy and Proud


Someone wrote…

From the day I was born I always knew I was different.

I always been playin with guys and when I was with some mates who didn’t know my names, I introduced myself to them by a male name. I felt so weird when I tell someone my real name or my sex.

I also hate it when my parents tells people “oh this is my daughter” I’ve always wanted to be a boy. I don’t care what people would think about me. I’m a transboy and proud.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 26th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Just going GROCERY SHOPPING no big deal


 

Submitted by Frontier Heart, the model and photographer.

“DMAB genderqueer, genderfluid, androgyne over here. During the day I work in a super duper male dominated environment. The days that I actually feel butch are WAY easier. Literally, the very first thing I do every day is go home and shave (ugh dysphoria RIGHT IN THE FACE) and put on some real clothes. I went grocery shopping in that outfit; my eye makeup, bright purple & blue striped nails, dangly earrings and sparkly blue shoelaces aren’t super apparent in this photo, unfortunately.”

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Posted by on March 25th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: Sexing the Cherry


Arca recommends…

Book cover of Jeanette Winterson's "Sexing the Cherry", illustration by Olaf Hajek

The universe of this book is where any queer can find a good home, a place to hide away in. You’ll get lost between the lines, you’ll never think of time the same way again.

The only way you can identify a person in this book is by their name. Sex and gender are irrelevant. Sex and gender are relevant. Sex and gender are skewed and warped and spat out in a way that makes so much sense.

You’ll feel good after reading it. You’ll feel validation, you’ll feel smarter, you’ll become more inquisitive. Maybe you’ll feel less lonely. Just read it. It’s an experience.

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Posted by on March 25th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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androprospective


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Posted by on March 24th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Definitions of fear


Someone wrote…

Fear.

Of the unknown ahead of me: I have decided that this is the year I make my stand and stop hiding the beautiful woman i can be inside of the male body I inhabit. Not entirely sure how that’ll be accomplished or where that will take me. Little bit scary, that.

Of how people will react to the way I choose to present myself to the rest of the world: never been possessed with an abundance of self-esteem to begin with, so venturing out into the world while trying to present myself as a gender I have not been socially conditioned to be, and have few of the generally accepted physical attributes of is also a bit scary. Will I be accepted? Yeah, in some places by some folks, I’m sure. Will I be laughed at? Probably. But I’ll just need to do my best to deal with that. Will I be physically attacked or assaulted? Hope not, but i know this still happens more often than most folks realize. So I will do my best to be safe, and i will put up a hell of a fight if need be.

Of never “really being a woman”. Is it enough to have the self-perception that you are female? Is it enough to wear the clothing that society considers to be feminine? Do I need to have surgery to get all the way there? Or is that still just artificial? Will I always still “really” just be a man because of the way I was born? I perceive myself as a woman, and i am attracted to women – can I call myself a lesbian? Or am I really just a man trying to appropriate a culture I can never really be part of?

Of dying alone. Of never being able to fully achive self-acceptance, and therefore being unable to fully accept the love and affection of another.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 24th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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blackfashion


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Posted by on March 23rd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: BRI


BRI

You can call me… BRI.

I identify as… a laid back, cool outgoing chica. I enjoy life and enjoy being me. A proud lesbian.

Very feminine with bit of an edge … to sum it up … I’m just me, either you love it or simply keep it moving.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I really can care less about labels, just be respectful.

I’m attracted to… masculine women … a woman with a good head on her,
who’s very outgoing, funny, and sexy with a beautiful and humble personality.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know I’m very fun, caring, trustworthy – just an all-genuine loving person.

I want people to understand… you’re entitled to how you feel, how you think or your opinion.

But at the same time be respectful of a person and their feelings.

Because at the end of the day, we all human.

About BRI
A little about me: I’m 27 years old, independent, SINGLE … unfortunately lol!
But it’s cool, anyways I enjoy life. I like having fun, enjoying good people. 

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Posted by on March 23rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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ufash


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Posted by on March 22nd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Does anyone have any experience with gender-openness in ‘Bear’ bars?


Someone wrote…

To expound, I’m a FAAB (female-assigned-at-birth) ambigender genderqueer (meaning I identify as in-between/a blend of male and female), who also identifies as part of the “bear” community – I’m chubby, (very) furry, kind of boyish, and love men (I mean, I love all genders, including men, lol).
I’ve also historically gotten along with men who identify as bears.

But sadly GQ/transphobia is not limited to heteronormativity – there are some lesbian, gay, and bisexual cis-folk who see gender-variance as a PITA, or worse, setting back the gay rights movement with its sheer absurdity (sad, but I’ve heard it).

So riddle me this: I’m new to Seattle, and the Capitol Hill region is pretty rife with bear culture, and, thusly, bear bars. I’d love to stop in, make some bear-friends (and, ideally, more, but not holding my breath…), and bear-it-up, but would my outward female-ish(?)-ness cast me as a ‘goldilocks’ (a colloquialism for female-friends-of-bears), or would I just come off as an impostor/intruder/wannabe?

Does this question make any sense?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Bun


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Posted by on March 21st, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: Bootleg Poems


Selena Anne (but Andy works, too) recommends…

Bootleg Poems and Poems from Big Pink
Two books that have poems and photos that have something to do with transgender exploration

Here is a whimsical, yet serious, poem from my book:

THE SATIN TREE

In Siberia
there is a tree
that oozes satin
Russian cross-dressers
make the arduous journey there
to pray and bathe
in its glory

One day
a man in angelic drag
cried out,
“There is no satin tree,
it is a fake”

“Pay no attention to him,”
said a soldier
in black bra and matching tap pants,
“his stockings have runs,
his wig is in tangles,
and his wings are made of cardboard”

“Still we must investigate,”
said a government official
in towering heels,
he took samples of the ooze
and headed back to Moscow

On his way back home,
the ooze seeped
out of his bag,
onto the streets,
underneath doorways,
and into master bedrooms

Even though
it was the dead of winter,
a strange joy
hovered over Moscow

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Posted by on March 21st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Biker cool


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Posted by on March 20th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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A single word


Someone wrote…

It’s funny how a single word can bash one’s self image across rocks. A casual “Ma’m” that took me minutes to realize was meant for me. Just when I thought I blended in with the other boys, and forgot about what I was. It’s as if the world has to include painful reminders to snap me back to reality each time.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Little Bear in the Big Emerald City


Submitted by Little Bear, the model and photographer.

“The story of a 30ish, pansexual, Pagan, genderqueer, tattoo’d, yogic, weight-lifting, novice composer who ran away, flew away from Florida to Seattle to pursue their love life and their dream of getting their opera on stage.”

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Posted by on March 19th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Chris


Chris

You can call me… Chris.

I identify as… genderqueer/fluid.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … depends on the day, but I usually prefer Ze/hir/hirs or they/theirs. Whatever others feel comfortable using.

I’m attracted to… femininity (in anyone!), gentleness, kindness, a sense of humor, a strong wit, and laughter.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about me, not about my gender, what I am, or how I dress.

I want people to understand… no matter what my gender is, I’m still me, no matter what.

About Chris
I write, blog and do a little art. I’m on Tumblr as CLBTRamblings, Twitter as @CLBreeThompson, and DeviantArt as CLBreeT. Feel free to follow me!

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Posted by on March 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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