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Profile: Bill / Mina


Bill

You can call me… Bill or Mina will do for me. Presently, I am in the middle of defining myself.

I identify as… gender neutral. I have been raised to think of myself as male, but the truth is a great deal more complicated.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I will go with what is used, presently it isn’t as important as just talking.

I’m attracted to… men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me as the caring, compassionate, emphatic person I try to be.

I want people to understand… I am doing the best to get through from one day to the next. I am as clueless as everyone else. And frequently more scared than you about being me.

About Bill/Mina:
I am 56. I have blue eyes. Up until August of 2010, I was relatively content living life as a gay male. That changed because I had my prostate removed, which essentially neutered me. It also has made me review my gender identity. Because while I am still physically male, I no longer am really male for all physical purposes. Not that I ever really was. But when my equipment was functioning, I could at least fake it. Now, I am for all purposes a female with testicles, and a penis. At least that is how I see it from my viewpoint. The equipment is there, but no longer has a reason for existing as it no longer does anything.

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Posted by on April 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Makenzy Lynn


Makenzy

You can call me… Makenzy Lynn.

I identify as… a cabinet maker, a loving husband, a girl inside, straightishy, open and unsure, questioning, hopeful, caring… me!

As far as third-person pronouns go, … sometimes I think it’d be nice to be mistaken for “her, she, miss,” however unlikely that may be.

I’m attracted to… people in general, though women mostly. What I am mostly attracted to in people is the ability to look outside oneself to the world at large and see beauty in all people and things, to be rational without being cold, and openness to differing ways of life.

I want people to understand… I am the person that I am supposed to be. I am the only one who gets to live my life, with all of the inevitable ups and downs from here to the end. Let me be happy.

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Posted by on April 6th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: BRI


BRI

You can call me… BRI.

I identify as… a laid back, cool outgoing chica. I enjoy life and enjoy being me. A proud lesbian.

Very feminine with bit of an edge … to sum it up … I’m just me, either you love it or simply keep it moving.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I really can care less about labels, just be respectful.

I’m attracted to… masculine women … a woman with a good head on her,
who’s very outgoing, funny, and sexy with a beautiful and humble personality.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know I’m very fun, caring, trustworthy – just an all-genuine loving person.

I want people to understand… you’re entitled to how you feel, how you think or your opinion.

But at the same time be respectful of a person and their feelings.

Because at the end of the day, we all human.

About BRI
A little about me: I’m 27 years old, independent, SINGLE … unfortunately lol!
But it’s cool, anyways I enjoy life. I like having fun, enjoying good people. 

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Posted by on March 23rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Chris


Chris

You can call me… Chris.

I identify as… genderqueer/fluid.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … depends on the day, but I usually prefer Ze/hir/hirs or they/theirs. Whatever others feel comfortable using.

I’m attracted to… femininity (in anyone!), gentleness, kindness, a sense of humor, a strong wit, and laughter.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about me, not about my gender, what I am, or how I dress.

I want people to understand… no matter what my gender is, I’m still me, no matter what.

About Chris
I write, blog and do a little art. I’m on Tumblr as CLBTRamblings, Twitter as @CLBreeThompson, and DeviantArt as CLBreeT. Feel free to follow me!

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Posted by on March 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Lorenzo


You can call me… Lorenzo.

I identify as… genderfluid.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … call me “he” and “she,” switch between them or use whichever one comes to mind first.  c:

I’m attracted to… people. I am panromantic and fall in love with someone’s personality before anything else. I also may be gray-pansexual or demi-pansexual (I’m still a virgin so I don’t know yet).

When people talk about me, I want them to… recognise me as a person, not a boy or a girl. My gender changes with mood or situation, so I change multiple times a day! I’d rather people treat me as me rather than a gender.

I want people to understand… that my gender is not a big deal. I also wish non-binary genders were more recognised in society so you don’t have a lot of trouble trying to explain yourself when someone asks things related to it.

About Lorenzo
I’m 19 and studying animation in college. The whole gender thing started only over a year ago! I tend to wear clothes of both genders but don’t mix them. I go out as whatever gender I feel the night before or when I wake up and hope that people recognise me as that gender (people have and haven’t, so you never know). I also hope I feel close to that gender or at least neutral so I don’t get paranoid feeling the opposite of what I’m wearing.

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Posted by on March 15th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sage


Sage

You can call me… Sage.

I identify as… a transgender female to male.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use male pronouns (he, him, his).

I’m attracted to… whoever sparks my attention.

When people talk about me, I want them to… eventually walk away with new knowledge.

I want people to understand… that everyone is created different, that being said… some people just do not fit into what is expected from males and females.

About Sage
Well, I grow up in a small, country-like town that is full of many different types of people. 50% are the Christians/Catholics, 30% are those who identify as rednecks (even though they do not know what redneck TRULY means) or ‘hicks’. And the other 20% is other. I go to school is a predominately white school so there are only about 8 other African Americans that attend my small, 500-student school. I volunteer for GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network) Pittsburgh. Which is a Student Leader Network to ensure that those in the LGBTQUIA+ community are safe during school. I also enjoy doing things such as writing poetry and short stories, drawing, learning random things, meditating, yoga, and just meeting new people online and offline. I guess you can say I am an adventurous 17 year old Trans* guy just trying to find new ways to make a difference in this very, very small world before I die.

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Posted by on March 7th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Landon


Landon

You can call me… “Landon.”

I identify as… genderqueer/gender fluid & asexual.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I strongly prefer male pronouns actually, but female pronouns don’t bother me too much.

I’m attracted to… intelligent, funny, cute people!

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about me just as they would anybody else.

I want people to understand… that I’m not any less human because I dress “differently” than what they want me to. And that I still have feelings no matter what I look like. I’m still human, I still feel.

About “Landon”
I go by Landon, but my birth name is Deena. I love nature, animals, and art. I can get offended easily when people say that I’m genderqueer, or look like a male, in a rude tone or like it’s a bad thing. I’m the same as I always have been on the inside, I’m just expressing myself more and becoming comfortable with myself. I have lost some friends in the process of coming out to who I really am, and who I really want to be. If they can’t stick around for that, and support me, how true are they? I fully support being yourself! Equal marriage rights, tattoos and piercings in the workplace, loving who you’d like, etc. I like being somebody to cheer people up, even if I’m feeling lousy. Enough of babbling for now – connect with me on Twitter & Instagram @ p0intmeh0me!

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Posted by on February 25th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: norstdresses


norstdresses

You can call me… norstdresses

I identify as… a 47-year-old single man who likes to live with the feminine part of me.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t care.

I’m attracted to… men who openly show the feminine part. I like to wear dresses and skirts almost every day and combine typical masculine garments with dresses.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be interested by whatever I am wearing.

I want people to understand… that dresses are neutral garments, and I wear dresses at any time for the comfort and the styling options.

About norstdresses
47 year-old man who enjoys the freedom of wearing dresses all the time. I am a happy, curious, creative and dynamic person who likes to discover new experiences. I am working in the field of development cooperation worldwide.

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Posted by on February 21st, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: qu.ee/r Magazine


Lorainekv recommends…

queercoversite

 

Creative friends, here’s a new way to showcase your work! qu.ee/r Magazine launched on January 15, 2014 and submissions are open year round. Neat! Check out the following press release to learn more about this great new literary platform.

qu.ee/r Magazine, an electronic publication designed to showcase queer artists without requiring queerness of content, releases their first issue today. Featuring authors including Laura Krughoff, Mandy Gutmann-Gonzalez, Sarah Maria Medina, Jonathan Mack and many more, this inaugural issue is 71 pages of both new and established authors and art-makers.

The Call to Adventure also features artists Hannah Brush, Krista Coppedge and an interview with Stefana McClure, whose work is currently on exhibit in the MoMA.

The queer community has already expressed a great interest in The Call to Adventure and the groundswell of support promises wonderful things to come:

“qu.ee/r is proof that queer writers have complicated, beautiful, and haunting stories to tell—and that even when they include queerness, identity is far from the whole story. The work in this issue is worth it for any reader, regardless of sexual orientation, and I can’t wait for Issue 2.” — Rachel Kincaid, senior editor for Autostraddle.com.

qu.ee/r Magazine was founded by Alison Osworth and Sarah Hansen, the fiction and the poetry editor respectively. The Call to Adventure is available for free online at www.qu.ee/r and also on Kindle or PDF for $4.99. For more information, feel free to contact Alison at ali@qu.ee.


Posted by on February 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Alana


You can call me… Alana, or any nickname you can get from that (I love nicknames, hot damn).

I identify as… on the more female end of ambigender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’ve been identifying as female for long enough that it’s basically a beck and call now. Still, I’m fine with they/them/their or male pronouns or anything in between.

I’m attracted to… no-one! Bit of a misnomer, I’m asexual but I’m panromantic, again leaning towards feminine identities. But personality and intelligence are huge toppers, especially a good sense of humor.

When people talk about me, I want them to… say good things, if possible. I’d love to just go along in my life and not be troubled by any of my identities in social situations.

Or to comment on my puns. I do love puns.

I want people to understand… that asexuality is indeed an ID that exists, and it doesn’t mean I won’t get into a lasting and healthy relationship with someone.

About Alana
I am still a student, but I love everything related to science and/or creative writing with the burning passion of a supernova. Maybe two. I also make a lot of puns, and I am in the middle of too many television shows.

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Posted by on February 15th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Tab


You can call me… Tab.

I identify as… I think of myself as genderless in my head, but for the sake of convenience (since it’s pretty obvious that I am 100% biologically female), I live as a woman. I will sometimes say “genderqueer,” because I’m still trying to figure all this stuff out.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … since I grew up with “she” and “her”, those are fine, but gender-neutral pronouns are cool too.

I’m attracted to… sexually-speaking, nobody–I’m asexual. I am panromantic, with a preference for men and non-binary people (the more androgynous-looking, the better). I’ve never been attracted to a woman before, but hey, stuff happens. I’m also attracted to intelligence, good humor and dorky smiles.  :)

When people talk about me, I want them to… not make the mistake of holding me to typical female expectations. Just because I live as a woman for convenience doesn’t mean I will meet those expectations. I probably won’t, and trying to hold me to them is setting everyone up for disappointment.

I want people to understand… that just because I don’t make the rest of the world act differently toward me doesn’t mean that I don’t think of myself far differently than I did before I figured all this out. There are more than two ways to be, even if we ARE just talking about gender.

About Tab
This is the first year I started wearing shirts and ties, and I love it. I mentioned to my roommate that I wanted to get a binder (primarily because I think some of the clothes I wear would look better on me if I had one), and later on in the conversation, she asked me if I might want to transition later. I said no, because I wouldn’t feel any more or less comfortable as a man than I do as a woman. I would feel more comfortable, quite honestly, if “none” (or even “other”) was a more recognized option.

Also, I’m pretty new to this whole “genderless” thing, too… I just figured it out about a month or so ago. So if anything I said offended anyone, I’m sorry. Please cut me some slack.

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Posted by on February 7th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Aero


You can call me… Aero.

I identify as… a Transman
a gay Twink
metrosexual even though I’m actually gay
demisexual
omiromantic – because I love Vulcans
awesome

As far as third-person pronouns go, … masculine, he, him, his and sir.
Oh yeah, and Captain works as well.

I’m attracted to… men, twinks, and nerdy boys, surprisingly dyke-y lesbians, and Vulcans.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know I can hear them, realize I have feelings, think past my gender identity, and realize my skills and personality.

I want people to understand… it’s cool to ask me questions, but it’s not cool to discriminate or judge me because of my appearance, gender identity and expression, and sexual orientation. These don’t affect others in any way. I am still a productive member of society.

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Posted by on January 25th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: X or Xavier


Xavier

You can call me… X or Xavier.

I identify as… I’m female… sometimes. Depends on the day… Pretty androgynous though.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Dude, Person, chick, you.

I’m attracted to… People.. just people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Notice the REAL me.

I want people to understand… Mistake me for a guy, it doesn’t offend me at ALL c:

About X…or Xavier
~Dancer
~Singer
~Artist
~Writer

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Posted by on January 15th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: S


You can call me… S.

I identify as… Agender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them.

I’m attracted to… people who accept me just the way I am. People who care about my brain more than my body.

When people talk about me, I want them to… feel that I’m an important contribution their lives. That I inspire people to be brave and be their authentic selves.

I want people to understand… I threw out the entire concept of gender, and just want to be considered as a human.

About S.
I’ve pondered the whole social structure regarding gender, and I call myself a Gender Freethinker: I feel like gender is totally irrelevant, and I don’t believe in it. I’m a free-spirit, and I want to find out for myself the truth about certain subjects – rather than take one person’s opinion as fact. I don’t think like other people, nor do I want to. I enjoy the company of people who are not stuck in old paradigms of thinking. Which is why I have an affinity for Genderfluid, Non-binary, Neutrois, Agender, Intersex people, and a variety of others who are setting their sights on new paradigms of thinking. I love it when people think “outside the box”.

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Posted by on January 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sam


Sam

You can call me… Sam, Sammy, Sam-o, Birdie, Owl.

I identify as… feminine feeling, masculine dressing boy. There’s a girl in there too who sometimes makes an appearance. A boy in a (fe)male body. Because it’s me that makes it male.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’ll answer to “she” by reflex, but “he” always makes me smile.

I’m attracted to… feminine boys. Masculine boys. Genderfluid boys I can mix and match the gender roles with. Bravery and ethics. Eyes that steal my attention. And a good, caring heart.

When people talk about me, I want them to… think I’m a nice person. Laugh about me in a good humored way where I could laugh with them. All while using the correct pronouns.

I want people to understand… I’ve only changed for the better since coming out. My self-esteem and self-worth has never been so priceless. But it’s still hard for me. Getting misgendered is difficult to swallow and smile through. But I also understand it’s difficult for others watching me go through this. For me, gender is a constant changing thing. I’m never one thing all the time. And just because I’m Sam now on the outside, doesn’t mean I stopped being Stephanie on the inside.

About Sam, Sammy, Sam-o, Birdie, Owl.
I’m a 23 year old author of my first LGBTQ book Parker. One of many in a series of sorts. I’m going to film school next year to write movies for the future. I’m bringing our stories and lives to written word and screen. I’m passionate about writing LGBTQ stories because it’s too important not to share. My hero and inspiration is Dustin Lance Black. I found love in a human when I thought I was unlovable. I’m a vegetarian and believe in God. I’m a whole mess of things I’m learning to love about myself.

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Posted by on December 27th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Unnamed


You can call me… by my name.

I identify as… I am a faithful husband and father.
I present as a man because that’s how I’ve been trained.
I feel female because that’s how I feel, and always have
I hope to feminize my body, but expect to continue to present as a man because I don’t know how else to be. Maybe just a happier man. How this affects my family is important, and I cannot sacrifice those I love for my needs.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m not sure I care. I was very pleased to be read as a trans man at a recent workshop at the gender clinic. I can pass as a man and have been doing all my life. I think I will still be able to pass once feminzsed.

I’m attracted to… My wife. I’m attracted women sexually and cannot imagine being with a man even if I had GRS. Being penetrated during sex is something I miss deeply even though I have never experienced it, but somehow it cannot be by a man.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about me, not my gender.

I want people to understand… that everyone is their own person.

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Posted by on December 19th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Abie


Abie

You can call me… Abie.

I identify as… female, ambiguous.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I have always been identified as female and have never really cared. I think the English language is complicated enough without “xe,” “em,” “hir,” or “nem.” Call me male, call me female. I don’t care. Call me an “it” if you really don’t want to use a label.

I’m attracted to… personality and intelligence. I find gender-neutral people more “beautiful” or “cute,” but I’m mostly asexual. I don’t like exceptionally masculine or exceptionally feminine people in general.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not care about what to call me or how to identify me. I want people to identify me by WHO I am instead of WHAT I am. People who think I am male and people who think I am female are free to be my friends, as long as they can accept people who think the opposite.

I want people to understand… I have always been identified as female, but I’d rather not be defined as anything. I’m not “trans,” I’m not even really opposed to people labeling me as “female.” If I could, I would get top surgery to remove my breasts, and I wouldn’t mind getting my uterus removed either. I don’t care about my genitalia, and I wouldn’t feel offended if people prefered if I continued to use the female restrooms after I had top/bottom surgery. If there was a ‘non-sex’ option, I would take it.

About Abie
I am a computer science major, hoping to work with my older sister as a database administrator for the government.

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Posted by on December 13th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Biri


You can call me… Biri.

I identify as… Genderfluid FAAB.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m okay with he, she, or xe.
I will not be offended if you misaddress me. You cannot read my mind and know what I am currently feeling. Relax.

I’m attracted to… people. I’m pansexual. If we encountered another compatible species, I might be omnisexaul.

When people talk about me, I want them to… speak honestly, but with respect.

I want people to understand… my being genderqueer doesn’t mean I intend to transition, and that it doesn’t change who am.

About Biri
I have been exploring and identifying with genderfluidity since I was 13 or so. I’ve always been “boyish” not so much in the tough tomboy way, but more in the lazy gamer way (haha). I’m happily in a relationship with a pre-transition MtF who is very lovely and accepts me for me day to day, as I flow between genders. She even bought me my first binder ^^

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Posted by on December 5th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Andro Hebat


Andro Hebat

You can call me… Andro Hebat (Indonesian language)

I identify as… human. Not a girl, not a boy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really care :)

I’m attracted to… feminine girls (honestly), good girls, and people who can make me enjoy.

When people talk about me, I want them to… don’t judge me by my cover. I’m different, but I’m human too.

I want people to understand… who I am as a lesbian.  Accept me as a friend. I don’t want to hurt you, so please look at me.

About Andro Hebat (indonesian language)
22 years old. Loves girls very much. I love my self and my life. 

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Posted by on November 21st, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Heidi


You can call me… Heidi.

I identify as… gender queer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … her

I’m attracted to… people…. I am engaged to an M to F trans person.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not judge me and accept me as a Christian.

I want people to understand… that you can love and serve God as you are.

About Heidi
I am a 31-year-old newly realized gender queer from Southwest Florida with a wonderful M-to-F trans fiancée, an 8-year-old son and 8-year-old future step daughter. We need support for transitioning with children and with familial rejection.


Posted by on November 15th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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