Archive for August 2016

Profile: Aster

You can call me… Aster, or any of my many nicknames. (kitty, Pav, Pavatti, Prince, Orion, Apollo etc)

I identify as… Nothing. Neutrois. Agender. Stuff like that. I like being called a boy, but not a man, though that doesn’t change my sense of genderless void where I always thought a solid identity should be.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/Him is most common. They/them is also fantastic. She/her is the only one off limits.

I’m attracted to… Men, mostly. Taller manlier men than I.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me like I am Nonbinary rather than binary just because I use binary pronouns.

I want people to understand… Each other, or at least try to. I want people to understand that not understanding something can be scary, but learning it can be fun and amazing and magical, no matter what it is or how old you are. We’ll never know everything, but if we keep our minds and arms open, we at least have that going for us.

About Aster, or any of my many nicknames. (kitty, Pav, Pavatti, Prince, Orion, Apollo etc)
I’m a 19 year old artist just trying to live my nonbinary life in this binary world. I’m a total sap, sensitive beyond belief and cry when animals die in movies. I stay a functioning human through a cocktail of coffee and stubborn determination and my face looks empty without dark circles. Yes, my hair IS naturally purple. Thank you for noticing.

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Posted by on August 30th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Chiyoko

You can call me… Chiyoko

I identify as… A cis male who enjoys the feminine aesthetic

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/him will do quite nicely. I’ve had people use she/her, and while I honestly don’t mind, it’d be nice if people would just listen. I introduce myself with my pronouns (“Hi, I’m Chiyoko. My pronouns are he/him. It’s nice to meet you!”), and if you don’t use them, well then. Now I know what kind of person you are.

I’m attracted to… Guys with nice voices and interesting hands. Guys who can sing. Guys who are blind and/or use a wheelchair like I do. Guys who are kind and gentle. Looks don’t matter (lol obvi), though if you smell or sound like you don’t take care of yourself, then we might have issues.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Remember than I’m blind, not deaf. Just because I have a handicap doesn’t mean I’m some weirdo you can’t be friends with (I mean I’m not dictating this to a stranger!). Also don’t make jokes about the way I dress or the way I act. I like girly things. Deal with it.

I want people to understand… I’m every bit a man as the one I want to marry someday. Frilly skirts and hair bows and jewelry, honestly, they just feel nice, and if you don’t like it, then you can make like The Man in the movie School of Rock and step off

About Chiyoko
I’m a psych student who’s big into the world of stimming. Things that feel nice are just. So good. It’s actually a bit scary sometimes. I’ve got jars of goo, pieces of embossed paper, stim toys, all sorts of things, and I’m always adding to the pile. I like jpop and scifi, and I’m currently in love with the candle section of Bed Bath & Beyond.

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Posted by on August 29th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Dancing in the dark

A commercial featuring bodies of many gender presentations

Posted by on August 28th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jade

You can call me… Jade or Jaden

I identify as… Androgynous or bigender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/Him would be great.

I’m attracted to… All Gender identities, but I’m leaning more towards the masculine side.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not make assumptions about me and to just treat me as they would anybody else

I want people to understand… That it isn’t a crime or something horrible to not feel 100% comfortable with your sex or your body. The genders were made as a social construct and don’t equal the truth. Be what makes you feel the best and don’t mind the opinions of other people.

About Jade or Jaden
I am socially really awkward and often very shy.

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Posted by on August 27th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Why we need gender-neutral bathrooms

A talk by Ivan Coyote.

Posted by on August 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Spencer

You can call me… Spencer

I identify as… A genderfluid, panromantic asexual with a whole load of mental health

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like they/them

I’m attracted to… Any one with a good heart and caring nature

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me as a person, not me as an appearance/sex/gender

I want people to understand… That mistakes are made and we all have a chance to remedy them. Second chances and acceptance are key to being able to live and love.

About Spencer
Okay so I’m like really boring, and really shy, but yeah I have friends, i have family, I have hobbies. Your averge Spencer really

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Posted by on August 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Call for Volunteers

Guess what, you all?! This September, Genderfork will be 9 years old!

First of all, thank you all for being such amazing readers and contributors for so long. You all rock. You deserve a pat on the back. And a hug. And maybe a puppy.
We’ve also been lucky to have had such talented, dedicated volutneers for close to a decade. A lot can happen in nine years and many have had to move on with life’s changes. We’re struggling right now to populate the site with full and varied content. If we’re to keep moving the site alive in its current form, we need new blood, and fast! If you love the site, and you have time to give us, please, get in touch! Have you always loved Genderfork and wanted to help? Now’s a really good time to tell us about it.

Yes, you! Genderfork volunteers contribute a few hours a month (or a week, if you’ve got it to spare), and work to help us maintain a diverse and affirming feed of community content.

Here’s what you need to have:

  • A love of gender all across the spectrum, and a love of our site!
  • Access to a computer and the Internet, and basic knowledge of how to use these things.
  • Time to give! Really, honestly – it doesn’t have to be a LOT of time, an hour or so a week will do it, but you need to be able to give it regularly, every week. We LOVE that you want to help, but if your life is in transition, or just really busy, take care of yourself. Don’t offer what you can’t give.

Here’s what you DO NOT need to have:

  • Any particular identity. You don’t need to be genderqueer or trans or anything other than what you are to help out here. You just need to want to help.
  • A lot of technical knowledge. We welcome it, but we can absolutely train you to do any job that needs doing around here – they’re not hard, and we’re excellent at writing instructions and answering questions.
  • A LOT of time to give. It doesn’t take hours and hours to be of use around here – it’s the consistency we’re after when it comes to time, not the volume. And we DO understand that things come up and some weeks you just can’t fit everything in – if you can drop us a line warning us and come back next soon, we can always work it out.

If you’ve got the time and the desire, please do contact us using this volunteer interest form, which will help us get to know you.

  • What sort of stuff you wanna help out with!
  • Why you wanna help!
  • Any extra experience you think might be handy (tech abilities, forum moderation, blogging skills, etc)
  • Where you live on the Internet (blogs, tumblrs, your band’s old myspace, whatever …)
  • How much time you can to give to us (on an ongoing weekly or monthly basis)
  • ANYTHING ELSE you want to share about yourself (we don’t know what that is yet, but we can’t wait to find out!)

We can’t wait to hear from you and we’re looking forward to meeting you!

Your Friendly Neighborhood Genderfork Volunteer Team

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Posted by on August 24th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Queer as Cat

“my name’s Vesper, i’m a 30 year old non-binary pan / biromantic asexual living in Japan. this channel is where i vlog about things like race, gender, sexuality, intersectionality, stuff going on in Japan, body mods– whatever the hell i feel like talking about. enjoy your stay. :)”

Posted by on August 20th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Need to Pee

Bathroom stories from That Rainbow Potato.

Posted by on August 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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A Journey to Self Love

Posted by on August 4th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Hayven

You can call me… Hayven

I identify as… Neutrois / agender / gender nope. I’m a gender-neutral person who doesn’t like to be put into boxes.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Any gender-neutral pronoun is fine. I normally use they/them/theirs, but ey/em/eir or xe/xem/xyr are fine, too.

I’m attracted to… No one. I’m aromantic and asexual.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Focus on what I have to say, not my gender. Despite the “weirdness” of being non-binary, I’m still a human being and should be treated like any other.

I want people to understand… That nonbinary people are just like anyone else — we’re *normal.* Not everyone fits the flippin’ binary!

About Hayven
I’m a 29-year-old enby from Park City, Utah, and I’m currently finishing up a Ph.D. in sociology. I’m currently an adjunct instructor at a university, and I hope to land a tenure-track job soon. When I’m not focusing on academic pursuits, I’m working on anti-racism and LGBT+ activism. My hobbies include hiking, skiing, biking, and reading (mostly non-fiction and sci-fi).

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Posted by on August 1st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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