Question: Binder for 13 year old

Sky’sMamma asks…

My kiddo is 13 and would like to get a binder. I’m completely supportive of all of the gender non-binary expression that they’ve explored so far. And I want to support them in this physical way too, however, I’m deeply concerned about the intersection of their developmental age and the long term repercussions. All input is helpful!


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Posted by on October 14th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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3 Responses to “Question: Binder for 13 year old”

  1. Harley

    Hey, there!
    First off, kudos to you for being so supportive of your kid. It’s awesome-keep it up!
    There are some concerns with binding safely. The first thing is getting the binder from a reputable company. There are cheap binders on sites like ebay, but these tend to be low quality, as well as potentially unsafe. You want a binder with some degree of elasticity-either elastics in the side, or 70% nylon, 30% spandex. Both underworks and gc2b are good, popular sites for binders.
    Once you’ve found a binder, you need to make sure the sizing’s right. Most sites will have a sizing chart, as well as recommendations for what to do if you’re between sizes. If your kid is between sizes, and they don’t have a recommendation, either contact the company or go a size up. Don’t let your kid go a size smaller than the chart says.
    Once the binder has arrived, have your kid try it on and wear it for a bit. If your kid has trouble breathing, or feels that the binder is too tight/too loose, most companies have a system for exchanging the binder for a different size.
    There are some restrictions on how long you can wear a binder. The general rule is, if you’re binding on a regular basis, you should only bind for about 8 hours a day. If you take breaks here and there, you can stretch that time a bit to about 10 hours. You can wear a binder for a maximum of 12 hours in one stretch, but you need to give yourself a break the next day-say, only binding for a few hours.
    Your kid should not sleep or do heavy exercise in a binder. Binders reduce lung capacity, and while this is fine for day-to-day activity levels you need to be able to take deep breaths during sports and such, or you could risk passing out or breaking a rib. During sleep, breathing slows down. Wearing binders during sleep results in even less oxygen getting to the body, which can result in apnea or pneumonia.
    There are a couple of other things, to-here’s a list of binding rules to follow/ensure your kid is following:
    Good luck!


    Harley replied:

    Oh, one more thing: Because your kid is still growing, make sure they take new measurements every now and again, so you’ll know when you need to go up a size.


  2. Frankie

    I as a trans 13 year old have to say health concerns are very important but the same is said for not letting your child bind. It can be the worst torture in the world to look in the mirror so I would say let them bind just regularly ask and check up on them about it. And keep on being supportive! Love the tranny panny Frankie! ?


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