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A Call for Volunteers (and Genderplayful 2.0)


Dearest most fabulous Genderforkers,

Can you believe that Genderfork has been running for six whole years? During this time we’ve published over 4,500 blog posts here — each one representing a unique and lovable human experience that breaks down the restrictive walls of gender norms. When I started this project, I was hoping to find a few dozen people that I could identify with and be myself around. I had no idea we were everywhere!

Well, as time keeps rolling forward, so do we, and I want to let you know about two things:

1) We’re Ready For Some More Volunteers!

Have you always loved Genderfork and wanted to help? Now’s a really good time to tell us about it. Genderfork volunteers contribute a few hours a week, and work to help us maintain a diverse and affirming feed of community content.

If you’d like to be a volunteer, just fill out the form and let us know what you’re interested in. We can’t wait to hear from you!

And that brings us to the second topic (which is also ready for more volunteers)….

2) We’d Like You to Meet the New Genderplayful!

For the last few years, a bunch of us have been collaborating on a second web project, Genderplayful. The goal of Genderplayful is to help solve the kinds of wardrobe problems we hear about so often here at Genderfork: “the clothes we want to wear don’t fit our bodies!

Initially, this project was a marketplace for people to sell clothing to one another, but for a bunch of reasons, that plan didn’t really work out. Now we’re reopening Genderplayful as a community blog (much like this one) for people to share tips, advice, vendors, inspiration, and solutions.

We invite you to take a look around at genderplayful.com. Please help us get it rolling by contributing some content, and again, there’s lots of room for new¬†volunteers.

Thank you all SO MUCH for working together to build such a strong community resource here at Genderfork. You’ve helped more people than you can imagine, and there is so much more to come.

The biggest hugs,

Sarah Dopp
founder of Genderfork


Posted by on October 23rd, 2013 at 10:32 am

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From outside the battle


Someone wrote…

Perhaps your gender isn’t as important to me because I’m not part of the battle in your head and heart. I’m too busy loving you.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 27th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Lost sheep


Someone wrote…

I have finally found my true gender but i feel like such a late bloomer and there are things i still don’t know. I feel like a lost sheep.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 23rd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Kinder Surprise


Someone wrote…

My friend texted me today calling me an “old man” and then going “I hope that was alright. I am never quite sure what to say – you’re like a gender Kinder Surprise.”

I think that may be my new favourite expression for describing myself.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 19th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Good relationship stories?


Someone wrote…

The longest standing genderqueer couple I know’s relationship has just collapsed. Not only are they some of my best friends, they gave me hope that people could both look past my physicality and also cope with the issues concerning them & still be willing to be loved by me. I’m feeling a little low.

Could some of the readers share good relationship stories to cheer me up?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 8th, 2011 at 08:00 am

questions, your voice | 21 comments »

Fluctuations


Someone wrote…

I’ve been realizing lately that my gender identity fluctuates based on how I’m read racially…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 6th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Love this body, but don’t, but do.


Someone wrote…

I want someone to love my body, but when they do, I become convinced they’re misgendering me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 4th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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The one without a line.


Someone wrote…

I use whatever bathroom I want, usually the one without a line.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 2nd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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……Auncle?


Someone wrote…

OK, your sibling has a child. What relation are you to this child if you are neither their uncle nor their aunt?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 31st, 2011 at 08:00 am

questions, your voice | 12 comments »

With #2 pencils and lined paper…


Cyn wrote…

My gender-deviant-ness started with my handwriting. I never wanted to write in loop-de-loops like a girl or in chicken scratch like a boy, so I found something in between, with soft curves but strong lines.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 29th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Maternal masculinity


Tree wrote…

The more I spend time with children, the more I realize that my maternal nature has nothing to do with my gender. I now know that I can still be someone’s mother without sacrificing my masculinity. I like that freedom.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 27th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Woops


Hey guys, we just ran into a database glitch, which affected some of the layout elements of the site (like the appearance of Recent Comments in the sidebar). Not to worry, though — our content is fine, and we’ll get the rest back to normal soon! ~sarah


Posted by on May 25th, 2011 at 06:27 pm

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Some days…


Someone wrote…

Some days I will show some cleavage, wear some lip gloss and rock a 2-day beard.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 25th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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A bothfriend.


Someone wrote…

I don’t want a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I want a bothfriend.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 23rd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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It’s like I have to.


Someone wrote…

I don’t crossdress because I think it’s sexy. I crossdress because it feels wrong when I don’t . It’s like I have to.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 21st, 2011 at 08:00 am

your voice | 15 comments »

Passing Less


Someone wrote…

I want to pass less. Sometimes passing makes me sad. I love the idea of having my gender constantly called into question.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 19th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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not “one of the guys”


Someone wrote…

I’m a lesbian trans woman so I’m not attracted to guys, but I still feel hurt when all the perceived females in the room are being hit on while I’m treated like “one of the guys”.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 9th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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By a factor of 10


Someone wrote…

“If you’re confused by my gender, I can guarantee you that it confuses me 10x more.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 29th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Femme Bear


Someone wrote…

I’ve been trying to figure out how to explain how I feel about my identity to other people, especially as I don’t really feel like a trans man.

The phrase that I came to and rings true for me is “femme bear.” I want to be a big, strong, muscle-y, hairy person, and wear heels and flower patterns. I like my beard, but I hate that I felt I had to give up wearing lipstick completely.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 27th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Names giving limits


Jessie wrote…

Today in Religion class, we went over Daoism. This is from one of their sacred texts, the Dao Te Tsing (or spelled Tao Te Ching):

“She who knows, does not speak. She who speaks, does not know. I do not know.”

As we interpreted it, if you know something, you can’t say it. As soon as you name something, you give it limits. We will never know everything.

I am not androgynous. I am not a female, nor a male. I can’t be limited by terms and social connotations.

My resolve: the word that describes me is… “me.”

It’s hard and it hurts to explain myself, but that’s all I have. I guess that’s all I need.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 25th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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