Question: How do I Come out to my Family?

Matthew/Melisa asks…

So, the title should explain it all. I am a gender-fluid guy-to-girl (don’t know if that’s the correct expression) and have yet to come out to my family. This puts me in a bit of a tight spot, because I enjoy to crossdress when I am Melisa, but only get to when my sister isn’t home (although if she was listening she’d already know but whatever).

My mother, while religious, is okay with the LGBTQ+ group, but I don’t know how they’d react to a binary gendered son. Currently I’m on the brink of coming out, like it was a long jump off a cliff I can’t climb back up and my toes are off the edge. Can anyone provide that final push?

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Posted by on February 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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4 Responses to “Question: How do I Come out to my Family?”

  1. Chris

    I don’t think there is any easy way… It’s a very difficult thing to do. Nobody can push you there. You have to push yourself. When you’re ready – You’ll be ready.

    Perhaps this video can help:

    I’m afraid I have no other insight… For me, it was my wife leaving – and I’m, well I’ve still got several hard conversations yet to have.

    Best of luck to you. It’s not easy – but you can do it.


  2. Matthew/Melisa

    Thank you. Some advice is better than none


  3. anta

    I can’t really help you, since I only ever came out to my immediate family. I’ve been rather cruel with the rest of them, letting them puzzle over my two name changes and never discussing my identity with any of them.

    All the coming-out stories I’ve heard have been different, because all families are different. It’s hard to give you any advice without knowing your family. If you’re out to any people who have been in contact with your family, you might ask them for advice, since they might be in a better position to give it.


  4. Matthew/Melisa

    Usually it’s a general “just do it” from my friends


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