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Submitted by Logan, the model. Photography by Yanick Dery.
Posted by omggeek on October 30th, 2010 at 10:00 am
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Submitted by Logan, the model. Photography by Yanick Dery.
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October 30th, 2010 at 1:39 pm |
Such an excellent negative feeling – talk to the hand.
Great
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October 30th, 2010 at 4:14 pm |
…but I want more.
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November 1st, 2010 at 5:14 am |
why does it need to be negative? could be, ‘no no dearest, I willn’t hear another word, you simply must allow for me to foot the bill tonight, additionally, I’d be honoured to walk you home, there are burglars running around, tut tut it’d be my pleasure, trouble? no not at all’ when I do that pose, its usually me pretending to be smug and richer than I am so that I can pretend to be suave and debonaire when I take a girl out for dinner, we do the cheque dance, I don’t care if a girl pays for herself, but usually I can talk her out of it :-p
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Jessica replied:
November 1st, 2010 at 7:16 am
Better negative than patronizing. Being a man is not, or at least should not, be about taking charge of other human beings and doing what you want “for them.”
If women used No more creatively, there’d be less crap in their lives. That’s not negative, that’s taking charge of your own life and taking responsibility for what happens in it. The idea that men are the guardians of no, while woman must smile sweetly and say “yes, dear” or be accused of being “negative” is very 1950’s.
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sam replied:
November 1st, 2010 at 11:16 am
You are ADORABLE Kendall! Wish I could meet someone like you!
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sam replied:
November 1st, 2010 at 11:23 am
I love the gender dance in a genderqueer context. Jessica I don’t read Kendall as negative or patronizing one little bit. Note the repeated use of “pretend.” I see his performance as a delightful gender game not as taking charge of another human being. Sheesh. I as a ciswoman have played the same game with other women. Protectiveness and tending-to are hot when they are done with a light touch.
But maybe I just cut Kendall some slack because I know he’s genderqueer. I do often get more worried when I see cisgender guys pulling the same moves. But that’s mostly because I don’t necessarily trust that they do have the light touch.
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November 1st, 2010 at 6:57 am |
Just need to tell everyone how I’D TOTALLY HIT THAT.
:D
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November 1st, 2010 at 1:48 pm |
Yeah…I don’t think its NEGATIVE to be like “you’re special to me, can I buy you meal, as a thank you for spending a wonderful day with you?” it’s funny how I kept saying “pretend” huh? I will offer to buy even cismen a slice of pizza if we go out as friends if we don’t hang out often…I mostly do it with this one girl I’ve known for 5 years and she works like 50 hour weeks so that she can keep her apartment but yeah, I’m an asshole for being flirty and pretending to be a dyke in shining armour, she eats like a bird, orders the ice water and I don’t see her everyday…Of course if she were to put out her cash before I got out my card or ever seemed actully offended (feminist studies major at one of the best universities in Canada) then yeah I’d be more than happy to watch her fall into debt so that I can satisfy my sweet tooth…
I’ll likely never transition, she reads as straight, and she works in that neighbourhood, so I’ve joked, well if someone from work ever came in they’d just think you were with a pretty girl who was with a pretty guy that bought you dinner, I’m 6ft tall, people see what they want to see.
I HONESTLY believe if I treat a straight boy mostly the way I treat a girl I’ve been nose over tail for for the better part of a decade, then, I really shouldn’t be seen as patronizing, especially since I don’t know…I will probably never be a man? And if I were, I’d have my choice of 50 girls lined up who would love me to buy them superficial things…so really…
I guess I didn’t live through the 1950’s I guess many of us haven’t, but you’re seriously underestimating my dinner date if you think she isn’t just about the fiercest li’l firecracker, if someone is in the wrong she let’s them know and never forget, so really…
And as a boi, I like the symbolism behind when someone buys me flowers, even if I’ve felt silly carrying them around. I think if someone does something nice to see it as nice and not a deconstruction of gender associated mannerisms and take it offensively.
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Meike replied:
November 1st, 2010 at 3:16 pm
*applause* You go boi! Please keep rocking the dyke in shining armor, the suave and debonaire part of you–heaven knows there aren’t enough decent people like you out there. Plus I also like to act up the chivalry a bit with my girlfriend, I know part of where you’re coming from; keeping doing what you’re doing, and rock it!
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November 1st, 2010 at 1:49 pm |
*you were a pretty girl with a pretty guy
Too many withs
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November 1st, 2010 at 1:55 pm |
Also Jessica, you look at this picture, and say “If women used No more creatively, thereād be less crap in their lives” What authority do you have that ‘Logan’ the model is female? I don’t know how the model identifies but I also don’t “pretend” to, oh there I go pretending again…it’s almost as if I am lighthearted or something *le sigh*
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Jessica replied:
November 1st, 2010 at 3:40 pm
I stand corrected. If people used No more creatively. And Kendall, I did not mean anything personal. People take things differently. When I was a teen boys were still expected to show up for dates with orchids and leap around the car to let the girl out, etc…. If I reacted negatively to your original post, please take it as an old person ranting about young folks nowadays and forgive me my invective, for there was nither ire nor personal reproach intended.
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November 1st, 2010 at 9:25 pm |
Thanks Meike, I was doing it also because that girl in particular reads a lot of Jane Austen and I know that part of her adores me keeping her dream alive even if I’m not her match, I’d like her to believe that there are others who will pull out her chair and tell her she looks nice. I like to wear sweater vests and collared shirts and be addressed as sir when I can, I don’t order for her or anything, even though I always know what she’s going to get, I know that she has a voice and maybe feels like something different, I never say “She’ll have the chicken” because that would be grossly over stepping, but I pay when I can, I love chivalry, I hold doors open for people and they squint at me like, don’t hurt me. I semi half flirt with the older women who come through my line, I think it’s funny when the 70 year olds are like “Really, you like my broach? I got it in ireland when I was younger than you” and I say “I can tell it looks like its from a fairyland like something a princess would wear, its beautiful” and they smile, and I would never say it insincerely, but it seems to make their day lol
Jessica, I felt like you were painting me as a chauvenistic pig…I collect action figures, I stay home on weekends to play online scrabble, I don’t drink, I feel awkward to the point I oughta be heavily medicated and strongly lack a certain machismo, I’m not atheltic, I’m not overly intelligent, I’m not an idiot but between the a.d.d and whatever other excuses teachers used to pawn me off on the remedial classes…I really don’t have a ton going for me with the ladies. I’m kind and tattoos and piercings aside, I’m very old school. I really have to rely on being lighthearted, so I don’t get too attached [ergo, too hurt] and I am very playful with most of the girls I know, even the straight ones, I provide mild entertainment when their boyfriends don’t show up to go to a movie, or after they have a big fight. This may sound wonderful but more often than not
they always go back to the boys or sometimes girls, but thats because people tend to ‘accept the love they believe they deserve’ and so most of them want to be with total a-holes. When I take girls on dinner dates, I know they will not sleep with me. I call them m’lady and darlingdearest and say ‘oh pishposh’ because really, who does that anymore?! I love anything classic, retro, or vintage…
I was more offended for ‘Logan’ and think that it boxed in someone who was on a site meant to open minds. Boys text you from their car “I’m here” and then as you put on your finishing touches of make up, they honk. I would prefer the flowers. I mean I know hetero couples and the boy says “sup bitch?” to his girlfriend, and its not meant with malice, but I don’t think it’s exactly right, so in a world where guys are honking and asking for head infront of their girlfriend’s dad, I think me saying “let me pay” is not the worst option, and even if I don’t have a girlfriend, I’d like my friends to know that there’s likely a nice boy or girl for them…
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Jessica replied:
November 1st, 2010 at 10:07 pm
What I say for me, well, it’s true for me, but your mileage may vary. Have fun. If the games you want to play are mutually fun and mutually understood, then enjoy them. Not that anybody needs my blessing.
I have had personal issues around some of these subjects and you haven’t. So when I bark and grrr, just ignore me and have fun.
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sam replied:
November 2nd, 2010 at 11:00 am
very gentle Jessica. Thank you.
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Jessica replied:
November 2nd, 2010 at 12:52 pm
You are very welcome, Sam.
November 1st, 2010 at 10:34 pm |
A kiss is not a contract, and dinner is not payment for prostitution. It’s just that easy. I’ve had men as a teenager say, well I drove you to the mall…aren’t you going to invite me in? Because they used $5 in gas mileage they expected me to put out. I’m not like. I’ve also had friends who always seemed to ‘forget’ their wallet, and would seem to forget I existed but sure would call me every 2nd friday when I’d get paid… I would much rather pay for someone who didn’t always have their grubby little paw out
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November 2nd, 2010 at 5:52 pm |
Thanks for having my gq back, Kendall =)
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November 3rd, 2010 at 2:23 am |
*nod* Well, one must never assume right?
Seriously though, its a cool pic and I didn’t mean to put the spotlight on me…stole your thunder a bit.
You’ve got great piercings of what I can see anyway and I dig the neutrality of the clothing, not even gender neutral more just the colours dont scream look at me, but they get all the same attention in a whisper :-p
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November 3rd, 2010 at 6:38 pm |
Why thank you. What can I say, I do appreciate neutrality ;)
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November 3rd, 2010 at 10:35 pm |
Myself as well, sometimes being subtle goes a long way.
I think that if people are confused, its working lol
If you’re confused, you might ask, and if you ask you’ll learn…whats your bracelet of, I think I doth spy’eth some silver ‘neath your wrist…I’m interested in accessories lol also the belt buckle its angled I don’t have any cool belts but I’m wide in the waist so I’m lucky to find a standard belt–not self deprecating just aware
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November 5th, 2010 at 12:34 pm |
It’s no bracelet, but a watch =) and the belt is a fabric men’s billabong… Fabric belts are best for adjusting to your waist size and looking fabulous!
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November 5th, 2010 at 1:15 pm |
Oh yes watches, it’s been YEARS since I wore a watch and I uh..never quite learned to read standard clocks..failed “telling time” in grade 3, digital is the wave of the future but not always gorgeous, I have my phone mostly.
Fabric belts hm? I will look into them
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