Profile: Ana/Amadeo/Ath


You can call me… Ana if I’m more of a girl, Amadeo if I’m more of a boy, or just Ath.

I identify as… I’m female-bodied genderqueer. Some days I’m a girl, some days I’m a boy, some days I’m nothing, some days I’m a boy dressed as a girl, some days I’m both…

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m used to “she” so I tolerate it though it makes me cringe on some days, and I hate “miss” or any female title. But she/her is fine for now I guess. Male or neutral pronouns would be a preference but it’s too hard to explain to people because I don’t identify as trans.

I’m attracted to… People that are different. I am attracted to female-bodied people generally, whatever gender if any. But who am I to tell who I’ll be attracted to next?

When people talk about me, I want them to… Stop assuming I’m a “girl” because I am wearing heels and a dress when I meet them. I hate that so many people laugh when I tell them that some days I pass as a boy. I wish people would talk about me as a neutral person, not an assumed gender.

I want people to understand… that gender is so much more than physical appearance. Look at people as individuals. We are more than a one or the other — so much more.

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Posted by on October 5th, 2010 at 08:00 am

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11 Responses to “Profile: Ana/Amadeo/Ath”

  1. Simon

    “I hate that so many people laugh when I tell them that some days I pass as a boy.”

    That is … really shitty. Hugs. I’m sorry.

    On the plus side, you are gorgeous and seem like an awesome person, that picture is fantastic, and you can be whoever the fuck you want to be, and the people who matter will embrace that.

    Good luck with this stuff, it’s hard :/ but doable, i’m convinced.


  2. Anonymous

    The way you identify makes me happy. Thank you for existing and being yourself. <3


  3. Popinjay

    I completely agree with you, about the title thing. I can cope with female pronouns, because I’m used to them, but whenever someone calls me “miss” or “madam” I cringe. It would be really cool if I could somehow go by female pronouns but still be sir’d.

    Don’t stop being yourself, you seem really awesome!


  4. Jessica

    “gender is so much more than physical appearance” way true. I guess I’m glad that not many people laugh when I say that some days I pass as myself.

    Love your pic.

    Ever see “Interstate 60?” In that, character has a deck cards with red spades and black hearts… When sorting cards by suit people don’t see the spades as spades because they’re red or the hearts as hearts because they’re black. The see what they expect to see, until they understand that there are more possibilities. I like being one of the possibilities. Hope you do, too.


  5. Samson

    Hello, person who is so much like me but lovelier. (:

    I am having so much trouble with the female titles thing right now. I usually don’t mind female pronouns, but I am most certainly not a Miss or a Ms. (or a Mrs., though in more ways than one!), and I’m about to go into teaching, where I’m going to be called one of those things and I hate that.


    Jessica replied:

    Teaching is a tough gig for us. Even when people are not trying to “protect” their children from our pernicious influence, there are many, many people who have a deep seated belief in conformity — to standards, if nothing else. It makes it doubly difficult to be different. I wish you ever bit of good luck!

    I was looking up an actress I recognized in an old Doctor Who episode and it turned out to be Lalla Ward who was the daughter of Lord Bangor and as such was properly referred to as The Honorable Sarah Ward (her real name). Perhaps you could insist on people referring to you as The Honorable Samson.

    And I agree entirely, it would be lovely to be as lovely as Ath.


  6. Anonymous

    It fills me with joy to find another transcendent female-bodied person. Just because a body is biologically female does not mean the soul inside must be limited to a female gender identity.


  7. Anonymous

    Marry me.


  8. Chris

    Don’t listen to Anonymous. Marry ME. But in all seriousness, I am very happy to come across someone who has the same issues as me — although in my case, I am physically male (and bearded).
    I have to say, it makes me feel a lot better about these things, knowing I’m not alone.


  9. Jessica

    It’s late on Thursday and I’ve gotten all giggly thinking of all these gender-nonconformist people are proposing marriage – a thing that was, after 1967, considered rather passe by the non-conformists I grew up with:

    As in Joni Mitchell song: My Old Man:
    We don’t need no piece of paper
    From the city hall
    Keeping us tied and true


  10. Anonymous

    I identify the same way you do and for the longest time haven’t really considered it okay or something that I could explain to people, but you’ve done it so eloquently. Thank you for making me feel so much more comfortable in my own skin.


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