Profile: George
You can call me… George. Not yet a name I use in real life, but nevertheless my hero from Nancy Drew. I always envied how easily she “got away” with being masculine.
I identify as… female, but not a woman or feminine; gay, but not lesbian; androgynous in presentation; butch-leaning, and even masculine, but not male-identified; tomboy; athlete; student; queer; curious; questioning.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really have any preference one way or the other. I’m pretty used to getting female pronouns. Occasionally I’ll get male, but once I speak it becomes clear I’m female and the pronoun is corrected. It used to bother me, getting male pronouns, but now I’m flattered that I can unintentionally pass so well. Call me whatever you like; that you’re using “sir” or “ma’m” implies respect and so I’ll never get mad.
I’m attracted to… androgyny. Those on the butchier, more masculine, end of the spectrum. And tomboys. The occasional femme, and the occasional very androgynous male (e.g. Adam Lambert. I love him and that love makes me so confused).
When people talk about me, I want them to… not care. I’m slightly different from “the rest of the girls” but I always have been, and for the most part always will be. It’s not something I have a problem with. Ignore my clothes and speak to me–if you’re a guy, especially, recognize that we have more in common than you think.
I want people to understand… I’m not “out” in the traditional sense. I believe I will always identify as “questioning” because issues of gender and sexuality never came easily to me. If you ask, I’ll tell you, but don’t expect me to volunteer the information to you. I just present as myself and, while I’d be happy to answer your questions, I don’t believe I have to open that particular door myself. I’m getting more and more comfortable with myself as the years go on, but I don’t know that I’ll ever be “there”—as if I even knew where I was going. I believe I can still have the “traditional” family life with a wife, or whoever I find, and have kids, etc. I’m looking to go places and break barriers, and let the sexuality and gender chips fall where they may.
About George
George is adept at speaking in the third person. She’s a college student in Philadelphia who also spends time in the Midwest. She hides behind several facades, but would love to get to know YOU. She loves sports, politics, debates, photography, music, and spontaneity. She can’t exaggerate how much she enjoys meeting people who either are, or have been, in her shoes. She would love if you contacted her at georgewithquestions (at) gmail.com so she can get to know you.
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November 15th, 2010 at 5:37 pm |
Kudos to everything you said, George. And, I love your outfit. Very dapper. :)
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November 15th, 2010 at 6:48 pm |
Questioning is good. Without curiosity life is dull indeed. I wonder where we get this notion that someday we’re doing to be done, like a cake. Yeah, a lot of people are kind of half-baked, but nobody should ever be done, unless they die.
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November 15th, 2010 at 8:33 pm |
‘I believe I will always identify as “questioning” because issues of gender and sexuality never came easily to me.’
I really, really identify with this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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November 16th, 2010 at 4:53 am |
“I’m not “out” in the traditional sense. I believe I will always identify as “questioning” because issues of gender and sexuality never came easily to me. If you ask, I’ll tell you, but don’t expect me to volunteer the information to you. I just present as myself and, while I’d be happy to answer your questions, I don’t believe I have to open that particular door myself. I’m getting more and more comfortable with myself as the years go on, but I don’t know that I’ll ever be “there”—as if I even knew where I was going.”
Your entire profile basically describes me, but I found this part very powerful and I could really relate to it. Thanks for posting this!
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November 17th, 2010 at 5:19 am |
“let the sexuality and gender chips fall where they may”
This makes me happy :)
Actually i love all of your profile, it’s honest, strong and beautifully put, so thankyou!
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November 17th, 2010 at 2:47 pm |
I can’t wait until the world becomes every gender, no gender. “Gay, but not a lesbian” – very accurate.
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