Profile: ShayneBear


I identify as… an ungendered person who was born intersexed and whose parents forced the female gender upon me. or a boy trapped in a female body. depends on the day, and whether i’m with family or not (with family, unfortunately i’m stuck being female, awkward, and uncomfortable).

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer gender neutral, xe/hir, even they/their, but it makes me feel warm and fuzzy when people refer to me with male pronouns, it shows me they see me, and not just my breasts.

I’m attracted to… big, beautiful hearts and spirits. bright minds who love books and logic games, but who also have a creative side. I’ve never been big on physical appearances, or even gender identities. I see the beauty inside of everyone and everything, no matter what they look like. (but i will admit, super skinny model wannabes scare me.)

When people talk about me, I want them to… be nice, for one thing. but more importantly, I don’t want them to label me as “a freak” “insane” “confused” or most of all “female.” Just because my parents chose at birth for me to live life as a female, and because i have bipolar and multiple personality disorders, it doesn’t make me anything bad, like so many seem to think.

I want people to understand… that I have feelings that can be hurt, even by something as seemingly simple as calling me by my birth name rather than my preferred name. Just because I have breasts and other female anatomy, it does not make me a girl. I dress how I do because it’s what makes me comfortable, and makes me feel good about myself.

About ShayneBear
I don’t feel like I fit any gender, or variation of them. I found out about being intersexed by chance, my parents hid it from me for 18 years, I happened to find medical records from when I was an infant that detailed my parents’ decision to make me a girl.
I love horses, art, and music. I sing tenor and bass, classically and vocal jazz, but prefer classical. I also play 4- and 5-string bass guitar, upright bass, piano, tenor and baritone saxophones, and 6-string guitar (electric and accoustic).
I’m a psychology major in my first year of college, and am pioneering a support group for youth with mental illnesses. I’m also an animal rights activist, and am often seen outside the courthouse protesting the lack of punishment for animal cruelty cases.

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Posted by on October 9th, 2010 at 04:00 pm

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4 Responses to “Profile: ShayneBear”

  1. radical/rebel

    I think you seem like a beautiful human being.

    It’s a shame, though, that feminist and genderqueer circles tend to malign bodies that are “skinny” just because being skinny is socially valued.

    body positivity for all bodies and all shapes! let’s recognize the inherent beauty of all people, yeah?

    <3 <3


  2. rainbow

    You sound like an awesome person. Just needed to say that =)


  3. ShayneBear

    Thanks =)

    Just to clarify on the skinny thing, there’s nothing “wrong” with skinny. But when I hear “skinny”, especially from the girls in my area, I think of unhealthily skinny. Healthy skinny is incredibly beautiful, as are bodies with curves. But the key word here is “healthy”. =)


  4. Jessica

    It is hard to divorce yourself from your body. It keeps reminding you that it is there all the time. I love to walk on the beach with my eyes shut, all alone… I could be anyone and anything then and when I open my eyes I see the ocean, which is so much more than I am that my own complaints seem insignificant.


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