Becoming me

Submitted by Carter Lei, the model and photographer.

“I am FTM, but sometimes I like to be a little bit girly, still with male pronouns. I am currently trying to afford a binder. They’re so expensive, and my mother would never let me.”

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Posted by on August 27th, 2012 at 10:00 am

Category: faces 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Becoming me”

  1. Anonymous

    You can look for used binders, or some areas have programs that can get you free binders (my city does.)


  2. Lane

    Definitely try to find a binder exchange locally or online, as the previous responder mentioned. I finally have a decent assortment of binders but it has taken awhile and yes some $$. I treat my binders like gold re washing on cold & not drying etc because to me they are precious;)

    You didn’t mention what method, if any you are currently using to bind… Have you read Hudson’s Guide at (hope it’s ok to use this link)

    Before l ordering binders from Underworks, I used elastic bandages, layers of sports bras, a failed abdominal belt attempt and even tried the ‘pantyhose’ method, which is cheap and worked well but cut into my shoulders. Though I fully empathize that you want to be your own person, handling the reactions and opinions of those around us can be more difficult to manage sometimes than our own gender concerns and the pantyhose binding can be more under the ‘Mom radar’…any old pair of control tops will work and if it is less than comfortable, try using it for those occasions where binding for presentation is critical.


  3. Anna

    If you’re in the US, you might try this binder exchange program:
    Good luck! :)


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