Difficult to maintain a sense of gender.

The Raven wrote…

As an asexual, I find it difficult to maintain a sense of gender. I look at people and I see the way spines curve and the way they move when they talk. I see gleaming eyes and vivid lips, collarbones and hands. I see so many beautiful people every day, and I wish they knew how amazing they are, that their sex, their gender means nothing in the face of the living works of art that are human beings.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 9th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 12 comments »

12 Responses to “Difficult to maintain a sense of gender.”

  1. J. Sandy

    I wonder if Jesus looked at people with your eyes?


  2. Anonymous

    Thank you for reminding me just how beautiful humanity can be.


  3. Avery

    I think he did.


  4. Cat

    How true. Hands are always what I notice. Such amazing, finely tuned pieces of biomachinary…


  5. Nina

    I completely agree with this statement. I often find myself viewing people outside of the constraints of gender. I find myself look at a person and utterly astonished by how beautiful they are. Of course this beauty is completely seperate of their gender. In fact, many times the person’s gender is ambiguous to the common viewer.


  6. Alex

    This is exactly how I see things, which is interesting, since I’m asexual as well.


  7. the raven

    are you really, alex? we should talk via aven. ravenofroses is my moniker. come find me.


  8. Alex

    Okay. I actually don’t have an account on that yet. I was planning to make one… but I forgot. ^.^”’ I’ll do that now.


  9. the raven

    ha, wonderful. aven is a fun place to be. very supportive, so long as you don’t get dragged down into the drama that always comes with online communities.


  10. Alex

    Yup. But even the drama can make things more interesting.


  11. another ace

    Sexual people do seem to get too caught up in the sex of people to really appreciate human beauty.


  12. Meike

    I agree. Also, it makes things frustrating when people ask you what you’re attracted to; sometimes all you can say is “their personality” or “I don’t know” and brace yourself for confused looks.


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