Over compensation.

Someone wrote…

My sister said “to pass, you need to over-compensate.” So, I wore baggier jeans and t-shirts. I started packing and swaggering a bit more.

The funny thing is, the harder I try, the more people think I’m a butch lesbian.

What happens when you stop trying to pass?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on February 13th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Over compensation.”

  1. genderkid

    I think that confidence is key to passing, and trying too hard probably makes you look more uncomfortable.

    One day, I hadn’t bound my chest, and I needed to use the restroom. I walked confidently into the men’s: I don’t know if anyone noticed, but if they did, apparently they didn’t mind much.


  2. B-Rae

    One thing I always remember from…I think it was said by Elvis Herselvis…was that too many females doing male drag forget to let a little femininity show up on the performance. I’ve always loved that. The guys I’ve found most compelling in my life have almost showcased that femininity – without “compromising” their masculinity at all.

    I agree with the confidence. I think that makes all the difference.


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