Over compensation.
Someone wrote…
My sister said “to pass, you need to over-compensate.” So, I wore baggier jeans and t-shirts. I started packing and swaggering a bit more.
The funny thing is, the harder I try, the more people think I’m a butch lesbian.
What happens when you stop trying to pass?
Posted by julian on February 13th, 2009 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 2 comments »
February 13th, 2009 at 9:16 am |
I think that confidence is key to passing, and trying too hard probably makes you look more uncomfortable.
One day, I hadn’t bound my chest, and I needed to use the restroom. I walked confidently into the men’s: I don’t know if anyone noticed, but if they did, apparently they didn’t mind much.
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December 15th, 2009 at 8:31 pm |
One thing I always remember from…I think it was said by Elvis Herselvis…was that too many females doing male drag forget to let a little femininity show up on the performance. I’ve always loved that. The guys I’ve found most compelling in my life have almost showcased that femininity – without “compromising” their masculinity at all.
I agree with the confidence. I think that makes all the difference.
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