Both or neither?

Someone wrote…

Why either/or? Why not both or neither?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 19th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 7 comments »

7 Responses to “Both or neither?”

  1. kendall
    July 19th, 2010 at 9:29 am |

    Thats honestly what I’ve always said. Either/Or is an elliott smith album, both/neither is my gender identity

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  2. Taylor Trash
    July 19th, 2010 at 12:02 pm |

    I’ve always identified as “neither” or “none of the above”. It’s my comfy space. ^_^

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  3. freiya
    July 19th, 2010 at 12:29 pm |

    i have to say both/neither sits much more comfortably with me as well. I love that others see this as an option too ^_^

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  4. Aubrey
    July 19th, 2010 at 2:13 pm |

    Both/Neither.

    I actually changed my name to Aubrey. Because when I think of Aubrey, I’m not sure if I think of a boy or girl. I think of both. Biologically I’m a boy, but I never really feel like a boy, and I don’t ever make the effort to feel like a girl. A girl is not what I am for. But neither is a boy.

    I want to be comfortable as neither. I’m hoping in the years that will come. I feel like I’ve taken my first step to self identity.

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  5. Jessica
    July 19th, 2010 at 8:22 pm |

    I tried to be one so long and failed miserably. Then I tried to be another for a while and was kind of a joke. Now I’m coming to find that genderqueer is a wonderful place with tress and a comfy spot by the river with a gentle breeze. Out there somewhere midstream on my island, watching the day go by.

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  6. Cass
    July 21st, 2010 at 7:09 pm |

    Both/Neither is me too. Being here on Genderfork is the first time I’ve really felt like I belonged.

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  7. Jessica
    July 22nd, 2010 at 5:56 pm |

    Welcome home, Cass.

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