For both sides.

Someone wrote…

A few weeks ago in school we had a few extra minutes in my social studies and World history class and my teacher suggested we play a quick trivia game. “Okay, boys on the right, girls on the left,” my teacher called out. Everyone divided to the left or the right but me. I stood there in the middle of the room looking very awkward as other’s eyes tried to put a label on me. People from both sides told me to join their team, but I didn’t move. The teacher whispered in my ear that I could pick whichever side I wanted to play for. I sat in the very middle of the room and played for both sides.

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Posted by on February 10th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 19 comments »

19 Responses to “For both sides.”

  1. Lanthir

    Awesome! Cool of your teacher to let you choose, brave of you to decide not to. (^_^)


  2. Alex

    That’s awesome! Your teacher sounds so cool! I’m getting the nerve up to do that the next time that happens.


  3. Lori

    Your teacher sounds so cool.


  4. Anonymous

    Nice job! I’m not a fan of how teachers impose gendered division and competition.


  5. Anonymous

    That’s probably one of the most beautiful things I have ever heard.


  6. colleen

    That’s awesome! Props to you and your teacher!


  7. Able Jennder

    Wow. That is incredibly brave of you to do. I’m glad both sides of the divided room wanted you to be on their teams and you got to choose not to choose a side. go you!


  8. (j)ami(e)

    anonymous said: “Nice job! I’m not a fan of how teachers impose gendered division and competition.”

    i agree, times ten.


  9. Keanan

    I agree with everyone that has posted here. That really is just pure awesomeness.


  10. Michael

    I’m stealing your gym teacher. This is like, every gym class for me, minus being allowed to choose.


  11. XylophoneGender

    I want to give your teacher an award.


  12. zorro

    Really, why is everybody saying the teacher was so great? Wasn’t the teacher the one to create the awkward situation and the pressure for having to belong to either the girls’ team or the boys’?

    Nicely done to play for both sides! But really, why does it always have to be girls against boys in everything?


  13. Anonymous

    I just watched Lemonade, so I thought I would drop by and check out the site.

    This post made my day. The situation could have been a lot worst.. and yeah, the teacher putting that situation in play wasn’t the best.. but the actions of both the boys and the girls sounds positive, the action of the teacher allowing you to make the choice was good, and best of all, your reaction. Your bridged the situation.

    Thank you for sharing your experience.


  14. Isaac

    I’m proud of you for standing/sitting ;) your ground! We should all be able to pick our sides :)


  15. Bluregard Q. Kazoo

    This just made my day. I love how everyone was cool with hir decision to sit in the middle and play for both sides. It gives me hope. =]


  16. kreily

    Well played!


  17. Kaisen

    This made me so happy. :) I applaud you for having the guts to do that, times ten. Hopefully the teacher will have learned not to do that in the future, but it sounds like it turned out pretty well.


  18. Anonymous

    i wish i had the guts to do that in class.


  19. Milo

    yea, I wouldn’t say props to the teacher at all because they were reaffirming the binary of men and women as the only choices. allowing you to choose a side doesn’t mean a thing. make your own damn side. more genders all the time.



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