Isn’t complex.

Someone wrote…

My gender isn’t complex. It only becomes complex when I try to explain it in terms of the binary.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 26th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 10 comments »

10 Responses to “Isn’t complex.”

  1. Lyn Aven

    Ah, I wish I could be so simple. *giggle* Mine’s complicated even for people who are USED to dealing with non-binary genders.

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  2. Jessica-Lee Stefanik

    you just pinpointed exactly how i feel.
    i am who i am & it makes complete sense to me.
    when i have to explain myself, that’s when it gets all tricky.
    thanks. this post put a smile on my face.

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  3. Eddy

    I need a like button for things like this!

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  4. Samson

    RIGHT ON.

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  5. Jay

    This. So true. I was trying to do this very thing the other day, and kept getting so frustrated, because it wasn’t expressing ‘me’ well enough! It’s like, no matter how I define it, something is missing. Like… trying to make a cherry flavour by mixing apple and orange, or something.

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  6. J

    Exactly this! I’m not complicated, don’t fault me for a failure of language!

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  7. Kaylee

    When I saw this I totally had to comment on it! This is so true for me! I’d rather not identify with any gender but out in public I only want to be seen as a girl nothing more nothing less.

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  8. Lost Queer

    Exactly. Well said. It’s society’s problem, not mine. :)

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  9. Wilka

    Exactly! I just made this realization within the last week or so.I know exactly what I am, but it’s not something that can be explained to someone who sees male and female as the only options, or even as the default from which everything else is simply a deviation.

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  10. smischmal

    My gender is complex, just no more complex then the idea of gender itself. When you get into the business of putting people into gender boxes, things inevitably get complex, but on an individual level, it’s really not so tough as it seems.

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