New trajectory.
M wrote…
I was married for a time. Quite a long time, actually, before I figured out who I was, and established a new trajectory for my life. What upset my husband most was not my leaving; he was more upset because when I left, I was wearing men’s boxer briefs. Obviously, I made the right choice, and I have never looked back.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on April 9th, 2010 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 7 comments »
April 9th, 2010 at 1:27 pm |
Wow. You definitely did make the right choice. Congrats.
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April 9th, 2010 at 3:07 pm |
High five!
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April 9th, 2010 at 3:11 pm |
As a former husband of a gender-queer:
Good for you.
He’ll heal or won’t, but always seek your truest self.
It’s confusing and painful, but: “what comes next is better than what came before”
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April 9th, 2010 at 4:04 pm |
I can’t imagine that was an easy decision… but if he was really so shallow that he cared more about your gender than about you… that was probably not a good place for you to be.
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April 9th, 2010 at 11:00 pm |
I despair sometimes when the women I meet, some of them with grown children, are still looking for “Mr. Right.” One of my favorite lines: “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.”
It must also be said that a lot of men will pick upon a irrelevancy in an emotional situation to be upset about something that doesn’t really touch them. It’s a defense mechanism in the face of something about which they feel powerless. I feel sorry for him. He’s the one who lost a good partner.
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April 15th, 2010 at 3:47 am |
That’s a good policy. Never stay with a partner who can’t accept your underwear.
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August 27th, 2010 at 12:22 pm |
The only goo reason for him to be upset about you in men’s underwear was if you left in HIS underwear, but I am assuming this did not involve grand theft knickers. So good decisions all around.
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