Born Naked
Someone wrote…
No matter what I wear, I still feel like I’m in drag.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Sarah Dopp on April 17th, 2011 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 14 comments »
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Someone wrote…
No matter what I wear, I still feel like I’m in drag.
What’s your experience?
Category: your voice 14 comments »
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April 17th, 2011 at 8:12 am |
I find I feel this way anytime I let people gender me as female. I only really feel out of drag when I’m open about being a man and asking for male pronouns, my preferred name etc. I recently had to quit a job because they wouldn’t let me identify as male at work, only go in more masculine clothing. They didn’t understand that being seen as female in masculine clothes feels as wrong as being seen as female in feminine clothes.
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April 17th, 2011 at 8:20 am |
I said the exact same thing the other day. To ridiculously simplify- lipstick feels like I’m pretending to be a girl, ties make me feel like I’m pretendng to be a man. I am caught, entrenched, somewhere in the middle. Physically I’m feminine- no matter what I wear- but mentally and emotionally I identify as a man. It’s exhausting.
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April 17th, 2011 at 9:02 am |
Me too…although sometimes that’s a good thing and sometimes it isn’t. On the days when it isn’t a happy thing, I’ve started thinking about when the new genderplayful marketplace will be up and running- I’m hoping it solves some of these problems!
Today I’m in a skirt and feel like I’m playing a part and it’s a very fun thing, but I never wear make up, because I think that would make me feel weird and uncomfortable.
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April 17th, 2011 at 9:24 am |
The way I see it, drag is the intentional performance of any gender.
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Elle replied:
April 27th, 2011 at 6:18 pm
Bam! #1 answer,
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April 17th, 2011 at 9:41 am |
my wife has never worn lippy or makeup in her life as she was part of the 80s generation of feminists for whom such things were a sign of oppression. If you decide to bother with them, its best to see how REAL women use them on a daily basis ie very sparingly. Its also a good idea, i think, to go and sit in a cafe for a morning with a pen and paper, and look at how real women dress.
A lot of what you feel will be because of a culture with fairly rigid ideas on how the genders should appear, and thus i think will feel weird for a while. I think you have to work out how to make the clothes, and whatever makeup you use. really reflect how you are as a person – they should serve your inner identity. that’s the great thing about being Genderqueer – our identity really does shift and is fluid. All of us struggle with how we appear but that’s part and parcel of living in a proscriptive culture. Chin up – and love yourself, and your struggle to be real!
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Samson replied:
April 17th, 2011 at 3:25 pm
Thumbs up. Just a thought, though–what’s a “real” woman?
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Stuart replied:
April 17th, 2011 at 4:56 pm
seconded!
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April 17th, 2011 at 2:17 pm |
Lately I´ve started to look at everybody and pretend that they´re in drag. That feels very nice. When you come to think of it.. it´s just fabric anyway.
Now, whatever I´m wearing it feels like I´m in drag.
Since I do not look upon myself as neither woman nor man, maybe there´s no mystery behind it. In my case I´ve decided that as long as I feel gorgeous, shit the same.
I hope you find a way that make you feel comfortable. Maybe it ain´t that bad to be caught in the middle. In fact “caught” might be the wrong word to use, maybe the right word is “released”.
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April 17th, 2011 at 3:24 pm |
“We’re born naked, and the rest is drag.” -RuPaul
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April 18th, 2011 at 12:13 am |
Ah – my apologies for presuming that Sarah is definitely one side of the gender divide or the other. I had assumed that i was perhaps talking to a male having some issue with identity…however….
No, its true that,at bottom, all gender appearance is a performance – of sorts. We may project all kinds of discontented feelings into a concern with how we look and how it makes us feel – that is oppressive. Its part and parcel of a society that rules through a market system. It holds the image of freedom, and choice, before us, and denies it in practice. The entire set-up is, to a certain degree – smoke and mirrors
When i first began to dress, it was out of a sense of continuing stress – now my Genderqueer self is a political statement, and part of a wider attempt to be a freer person.
Once again, apologies for any offense caused.
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April 18th, 2011 at 6:17 pm |
totally constantly eternally
at least that’s how it feels for this non-gendered female
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April 27th, 2011 at 3:01 pm |
Recently in one of my gender and sexuality lessons (I know right awesome or what) I had this conversation with another female, since I was young put me in womans cloathing and I felt like I was in drag… so now I wear drag
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April 27th, 2011 at 5:50 pm |
No matter what I wear, I don’t feel like I’m in drag. Unless I’m attempting to look like I’m in drag, flamboyant showy stuff.
I just get confused/frustrated when other people inevitably read my biological sex.
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