Change of Focus

Someone wrote…

I’ve begun seeing my genitals as not quite *right* on my body, but I’m also sure that I’ll have the right body in Heaven. Meanwhile, I’ll focus on others’ needs and work on accepting the bodily gifts I already have.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 28th, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Change of Focus”

  1. Anonymous

    … I can’t come close to knowing what to say. What a world, where someone has to deny their own happiness to please their deity. What a world, where guilt about how you “should” feel OK in your body erases the reality that you don’t.


  2. J.D.

    I don’t think that’s quite what’s being said here. I mean, I might not agree 100%, but nowhere did the person say they were avoiding feeling okay to “please their deity”. What I got out of that was that they trust that though their physical form is not something they’re totally comfortable with they trust that their deity recognizes their true form and that in the afterlife they will be in a more comfortable body.

    Nowhere was there an assertion that their deity has any problem with alterations to the physical form for the sake of personal happiness. Indeed, all I saw was someone who seems to be more concerned on the metaphysical and doesn’t feel compelled to make any changes at this time for one reason or another.

    In fact, I agree with them. I’m not totally comfortable in my body now, sometimes my genitals don’t seem quite “right” either, but I’ve opted to stay the way I am – not because my faith limits me – but because I don’t think there IS any way for me to feel totally comfortable, because my “gender” is so abstract to me. I also, however, have faith that in Heaven that fluidity will be represented by a form I will be comfortable with.

    In the meantime, I too am attempting to reconcile with my body (I’ve given it a stern talking to I assure you) and help others in any way I can. I would like to give the original poster a hug.

    tl;dr – I respectfully disagree with your interpretation of the post.


    radical/rebel replied:

    This is a good and needed reply to the first commenter, who seems to be a little virulent in their anti-religion position.

    Also, nowhere in the original sentiment do a find an expression of any emotion like “guilt”–that’s reading something into this person’s feelings that they don’t say for themselves.


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