Someone wrote…

I just want someone to see me for me, I cannot define myself any more than that and I wish other people would stop trying to.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I think it would be nice if EVERYONE was able to be first judged on their character, not what might be under their clothes. I think that androgyny might sometimes be a blessing, that some people should be forced by an absence of gender presentation to consider the PERSON standing before them.

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Someone wrote…

I’m pretty sure gender doesn’t exist anyway, so why would I limit myself by saying I am only am one gender and I only like one (or two) genders when there are so many!?

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Someone wrote…

It’s difficult to want a penis of your own without making your vagina feel shame. I want to love it too, but sometimes it’s so alien. I want to love myself.

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Someone wrote…

I’m not a woman with facial hair and neckties, and I’m not a man with breasts and a vagina. I’m a little more complex than that, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Someone wrote…

I find that the more I learn about gender and how I feel about mine, the stronger I become.

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Someone wrote…

Sometimes I feel like an androgynous person. Not knowing which side to choose. I don’t want there to be any border between the sides.
Where I live, the people are not so open-minded. They do not understand things like this. They are old-fashioned.
I feel like I cannot be myself without drawing major attention.
I don’t really know what to do. I hope that, sometime, people don’t have to use a body to live. They should have an avatar. Customizable: their own body, their own representive image.
I hope, by posting this message, I would find people with the same problem that I have.

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Lytche wrote…

Gender confuses me, when it’s presented in binary opposition. My body might be male, but I don’t feel inclined to act masculine, nor do I feel the need to change my sex. I am me and this is my gender – A mixture of psychical strength, compassionate heart, empathy, smiles, kind words and self-reliance. If I could pick my gender, I want it to be pink.
Why people are so obsessed with that box which is being used only to limit one’s choices and to restrain one’s abilities is well beyond me.

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Someone wrote…

I gave in….when they told me I looked better in skirts and make-up than jeans and a loose T-shirt. They like it when I straighten my hair. They like my hair long, not buzzed. They don’t like my gauges. My mother told me I was a bad catholic, and I should go to confessions…and then a therapist. I gave in when they said I look better as a size two than a 9. I gave in…I gave in.

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Someone wrote…

I’ve begun seeing my genitals as not quite *right* on my body, but I’m also sure that I’ll have the right body in Heaven. Meanwhile, I’ll focus on others’ needs and work on accepting the bodily gifts I already have.

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Someone wrote…

Petrified and ecstatic all at the same time! Yesterday I made an appointment for a breast augmentation consultation. This is something I have wanted for almost 30 years, yet I am scared to death to finally be complete.

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Someone wrote…

Anybody looking for nice, clear-cut gender expression is going to be disappointed in our household.

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Someone wrote…

It took me years to be able to look at my naked body in the mirror. Now that I’m beginning to understand that I’m queer, my slender frame and marks from years of illness aren’t taboo or undesirable. They’re powerful, beautiful, and dangerous. They show that I wasn’t made to fit the boundaries of masculine or feminine, but to blend them. I can love the power of being male and femme and whatever else I discover without feeling shame.

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Sylvan wrote…

I’ve come to believe that gender is a mental construct of observers as well as gendered beings, a participatory creation of the the liminal space between observer and actor. Some days I resent this; others, I enjoy the works of art I join in.

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Someone wrote…

My gender has nothing to do with the clothes I wear.

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Someone wrote…

When I dress up, I like to wear a tank top under a textured white dress shirt with a cute tie and flatten some of my hair into false sideburns. I end up looking like a drag king, even though I could grow my own full beard if I actually wanted one. Hooray for gender fabulousness!

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Someone wrote…

I’m queer but I’m not gay, I’m trans but it doesn’t show yet. I’m going to be a lesbian, but as transition kicks in I find myself paying lustful attention to men. What am I? Where am I? I seem to be floating outside gender.

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Nick B. wrote…

“Pansexuality is a great state of mind/body/soul. Being able to truly love people for who they are and not just what their gender is the most liberating feeling!”

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Someone wrote…

“Sometimes I’m sure I had a penis, but I’ve somehow lost it. I reach for it…and find…nothing. Just a phantom pain. A niggling memory in the back of my mind.”

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Someone wrote…

Sometimes I wonder if my gender view isn’t the plain binary one, and the only problem is that I am on the wrong side of the wall…

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