Public and Private

Someone wrote…

I feel like I have a public gender and a private gender, and neither one is more or less true than the other.

What’s your experience?

Posted by Freiya on April 15th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Unquiet
April 16th, 2012 at 4:36 am |
I agree with this so badly right now :/ Except I’d got further and say I don’t think either are correct.

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LeKyS
April 18th, 2012 at 5:01 pm |
I definitely feel this way! I feel very protective of my private gender; I don’t feel like it’s anybody else’ business. At the same time, I feel like I’m lying if I claim to be anything other than my private gender. I hate being asked preferred pronouns, because I don’t want to lie and say I prefer my public gender pronouns, but I also really, really don’t want to say anything about my private gender.

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Anonymous
May 19th, 2013 at 6:32 am |
I love this idea.

I have too many other important things in my life than to set up the frutstating roadblock in most aspects of my life, that would be caused by publicly identofying my gender that I don’t even fully understand.

But if the difference is public and private not truth and lie, then that is a liberating thing.

I hope that, in a similar manner to how I could not have immagined being out about bisexuality when I first came out to myself, that genderqueer becomes a similarily out part of my life.

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