Public and Private

Someone wrote…

I feel like I have a public gender and a private gender, and neither one is more or less true than the other.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 15th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Public and Private”

  1. Unquiet

    I agree with this so badly right now :/ Except I’d got further and say I don’t think either are correct.


  2. LeKyS

    I definitely feel this way! I feel very protective of my private gender; I don’t feel like it’s anybody else’ business. At the same time, I feel like I’m lying if I claim to be anything other than my private gender. I hate being asked preferred pronouns, because I don’t want to lie and say I prefer my public gender pronouns, but I also really, really don’t want to say anything about my private gender.


  3. Anonymous

    I love this idea.

    I have too many other important things in my life than to set up the frutstating roadblock in most aspects of my life, that would be caused by publicly identofying my gender that I don’t even fully understand.

    But if the difference is public and private not truth and lie, then that is a liberating thing.

    I hope that, in a similar manner to how I could not have immagined being out about bisexuality when I first came out to myself, that genderqueer becomes a similarily out part of my life.


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