At work yesterday, I decided to comment on a dress that I found cute. Almost immediately my coworker threw out the comment “You’re such a girl.” Even though I tried to fight this, he just looked me up and down, saying “I know what gender you are.” I am a biological female.
I identify as androgynous, prefer male pronouns (though looking to transition to more gender neutral terms), and was even binding at the time. He doesn’t know this, but it still hurt me to hear that anything I do is possibly gendered in some way and could invalidate the way I identify. It makes me miserable, especially when there are days when I want to wear a dress but the fear of being seen as a woman completely stops me.
I really wish my part of the world was more educated on gender expression.
What’s your experience?