Finding my Place

Someone wrote…

I’m genderfluid, moving from being neutrois almost all of the time, to every now and then male/female. There’s no pattern to the changes. No rhyme or reason to my gender expression. My sexual orientation is difficult to explain without saying pansexual (which I’m not).

I haven’t met anyone like myself before, and so many people on the net seem so much more ‘stable’ in their fluidity than me. Trying to find my place amongst the binary, non-binary, or sometimes in the LGBTQ community, seems so hard. I just don’t fit in a category. And if I every did, I wouldn’t be in it for very long.

I can’t be alone in this, can I?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on July 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Finding my Place”

  1. Claude



    This is a pretty good description of me. Welcome to the club, dear.


  2. Jess

    Not alone! I’m fluid as well, and as I’ve become older I’ve noticed my gender spends more time in neutrois and shifting less often to male or female. I’ve given up on finding my place, and I’ve found that I’m actually happier than when I was trying to search for it, even though this choice admittedly doesn’t bring 100% happiness. I’ve chosen to just focus on being me, and doing what I need to do to have the best life I can.


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