People can be Free
Someone wrote…
I am a 56-year-old genderfluid person. I was named female by heterosexual and heterogendered doctors. they had no idea how I would ever feel about this. it has marked my whole life. I didn’t ask for that to be imposed onto this little body.
I have spent nearly all my life feeling like their decision was my fault. this is my body and I like it. I just don’t call it female because it doesn’t look like what females look like. And I don’t feel feminine. or masculine.
I just feel great in a suit and a smart shirt and a tie. I love ties. I just want to dress like this and not get called odd. or laughed at. I am so tired of being laughed at.
I am so happy things are finally changing and people can be free. to wear a suit and a shirt and a tie. it really can’t be like it was for people in the future.
What’s your experience?
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August 9th, 2015 at 1:00 pm |
I’m so glad to hear that someone else over the age of 30 feels this way. I see a lot of young people posting, but I still feel like the odd person out.
I’ve always felt most comfortable in jeans, a graphic tee and tennis shoes. Yet, I’m automatically labeled as ‘tomboy’ and ‘lesbian’ because, while I’ll wear them, I despise dresses and skirts.
It would be nice to dress how we want to, whatever mix of feminine/masculine/etc. it may be.
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August 10th, 2015 at 2:58 am |
That’s awesome, and to be fair I don’t know your doctors but I’m assuming there’s really no way to tell if they were in fact heterosexual, and heterogendered would mean opposite gender, so maybe you mean cisgender, but I’m not sure that’s possible to know either. Gender is a difficult conversation and perhaps more so when it comes to how medical professionals, parents, guardians, etc talk about kids who cannot express their gender like when they’re babies. Personally and as someone who’s agender/transmasculine, I’d argue for sex to be relevant only as necessary when talking about a very young child – ie not imposing gender expectations, and maybe not even marking female/male, boy/girl on official records. It’s not like that’s really that important to know and it can be stigmatizing when you don’t fit that box.
Sorry to be technical. Just saying.
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