Question: Does this make me trans/non-binary?
¯\_(?)_/¯ asks…
This might sound stupid, but am I transgender/non-binary if I feel the need to look androgynous rather than girly at times? Like, I want to easily give off a genderless, for lack of a better term, at times, and sometimes I want a more masculine vibe, and sometimes I want a more feminine vibe.
Does that mean I’m non-binary?
I hope that doesn’t sound dumb or offensive, I’m just legitimately confused.
Please post your response in the comments below.
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Posted by Freiya on August 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am
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August 4th, 2015 at 9:06 am |
It sounds like you may be genderqueer or genderfluid. If you research those but still feel non-binary or agender you might just have to accept that u like to play with masculinity or femininity sometimes.
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August 4th, 2015 at 3:23 pm |
I wouldn’t say that. Being a woman doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to look like a traditional woman. I know a cis gender woman who only occasionally wears dresses but usually wears large jerseys and baggy shorts, and has a very masculine vibe. However, she identifies as a woman only. The same applies to everyone. What it comes down to is how you feel about your gender. Giving off a masculine vibe doesn’t necessarily mean you identify as a man. I think it’s something to consider, but you have to decide whether your preference to give off masculine vibes is just a fashion preference (meaning you might be non binary), or if you feel like you are a man at those time (meaning you might be genderfluid/genderqueer).
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Anonymous replied:
August 4th, 2015 at 3:24 pm
*I use the ‘being a woman doesn’t necessarily mean you want to dress like a traditional woman’ is in reference to the example I provide, not necessarily you, before anyone gets confused.
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Anonymous replied:
August 6th, 2015 at 7:03 am
I agree with this.
There’s nothing wrong with cisgender girls doing “guy things” or cisgender guys doing “girl things.”
Gender is how you identify internally. I identify as female, most days, but I don’t think I look good dressing as a female, so I just keep wearing guy’s clothes and don’t tell anyone that I feel like a woman inside.
But that’s just my story, obviously. Everyone is their own person, and it’s part of the beauty of the world that we’re not all the same.
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August 6th, 2015 at 12:10 am |
It sounds like you’re strictly talking about gender expression, which can be whatever the hell you want it to be without it bearing on your identity. Sometimes, that’s simply called “gender non-conforming.”
Having a fluid, androgynous, or genderqueer gender identity would be non-binary and/or trans. This operates differently than how you want to look- it’s how you are and how you know yourself and identify yourself.
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