I Need to Tell Them But I Don’t Know How

Someone wrote…

I’m 21, female wanting to be a male.

I fall asleep and wake up thinking the same thing everyday, that I hate myself for who I am, for the body I didn’t choose.

I’m afraid to tell anyone, no one knows. My beautiful girlfriend, worries about me. And so does my family. But I still can’t bring myself to tell them

I see a man and I envy them. All I have ever wanted is to be one, I was given the wrong body.

I feel so alone in this world, I need to tell them. But I don’t know how, my life needs to change.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 9th, 2016 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “I Need to Tell Them But I Don’t Know How”

  1. Leonie

    Trust your feeling and go for it! You sound like you can’t really be happy hiding yourself, so maybe the people who love you might actually appreciate your honesty and sincerity! They will know things will change for the better for you once you can more freely express yourself.

    I wish you all the best!

    29, mtf


  2. M

    My advice would be to find someone, just one persont to tell who you are pretty sure will support you. Maybe someone who is a little bit removed from the majority of people in your life. Once you tell that first person it is a huge weight off your shoulders, and it helps for latter if you want to tell other people to have one person in your corner.


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