Pronouns
Someone wrote…
My coworker of 6 months still misgenders me in conversation, he says because none of the other trans* people he knows care about pronouns. Just me.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Freiya on February 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 3 comments »
February 27th, 2016 at 7:12 am |
Well, that must mean it’s awfully nice of him to disregard your feelings.
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February 29th, 2016 at 7:20 am |
It may be that the other trans* people that your coworker knows “don’t care about pronouns”, or it may be that he comes off as unsupportive to them too, and they’ve given up on correcting him (and hopefully spend as much time as possible with more caring people). I’m sorry that your coworker is mistreating you this way, and that he’s trying to make you feel guilty about reinforcing your boundaries. He’s wrong, you’re right, and you’re awesome. xx
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March 8th, 2016 at 10:07 pm |
You need to explain to him that gender means very different things to different people. If you’re like ME than you probably don’t care too much about pronouns especially since none of them really seem to fit. Note the capitalized “ME”, not you or anyone else who doesn’t feel this way. I personally identify as non-binary which is a huge umbrella term, again, covering very different things. Gender is a very personal thing, and just because a few trans friends don’t mind doesn’t mean you don’t.
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