kyle asks…

I’ve been thinking I might be an androgyne, but there’s so much information and different ways to be classified that I’m not entirely sure if I am one. I’d like to know how I can figure this out.

I’m biologically female, but I think I can say that I feel ‘without gender’ as I don’t feel like I fit into the same category as women and have never thought myself as a man. I’m fine with having a female body, and have no desire to change it (although, I’m very curious of what it would be like if I was a man). When I see myself in a mirror, I never think ‘woman;’ it feels inaccurate and borderline uncomfortable, even though I have no issue with ‘female’.

I don’t really have any real urge to dress like a man (but it’s fun when I do, and I will if I feel like it or if I have the clothes for it); nor do I feel comfortable dressing overly feminine (although, I sometimes dress very sexy for the bar with no problems). I normally just wear tomboy kind of things. I don’t have ‘girl’ days and ‘guy’ days, like most gender fluid people seem to do, and I’m attracted to men, but curious about women (I’ve never been with one yet, so I can’t say for sure).

I’d like to know how I can explore this further. The only ideas I have to express myself is through dress, but I’m sure there are more ways to explore and feel out my identity than deciding to wear boy or girl clothes (which poses another problem: how do I ‘dress to express’ if I don’t feel like I’m neither a man nor a woman?) I’d like to explore my masculinity and femininity if I have any, but I don’t know how to do it.

If anyone has any ideas, that would be great. 100% beginner here. Any advice will do.

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Submitted by Tony/Serena, the model and photographer

“I’ve never felt happier than this, looking in the mirror and seeing myself inch closer to that beautiful person I am in my dreams. I keep moving one step closer to feeling like I’m my true self.”

Someone wrote…

I’m thinking that even with my chest bound, people see me as a female due to my hair and face. But I don’t want to cut my hair. Why can’t I simply be a beautiful person with delicate features and long hair, rather than a woman with a small chest?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted via Ulysses Martinez a.k.a. Ulysses Alexander, model.

Submitted by Nat Titman, the model and photographer

“I talk about how to develop a more androgynous, ambiguous or gender neutral speaking and singing voice. Assumes nothing about how you identify or whether you voice has been affected by testosterone.

Accompanying blog post with video, video summary, links to all singers and songs featured, bonus material, additional recommended singers and links to external resources.”

Submitted by jes, the model and photographer

“Two sides of my spectrum, if I had sock monkey children.”

You can call me… either Lizzy or Owen. Miller is fine too.

I identify as… Well, I don’t quite know. I’m an awfully short, biological female with long hair that I love or hate depending on the day. My gender changes. If I feel like a girl, I’ll dress like a girl. If I’m feeling like a dude, I’ll be a dude for however long I feel like it. I don’t know what I am, and I’m fine with that.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … any and all, please and thank you.

I’m attracted to… fit girls, tall boys. Preferably with a healthy balance of stereotypical femininity and masculinity, much like myself. Intelligence and compatibly in terms of political opinions and humor is important.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about what I do and not who I am. I would much rather be remembered as that chick who has feathers in her hair who danced in the halls and overcame numerous obstacles instead of anything else.

I want people to understand… gender is not concrete. It changes and stretches, much like our emotions and thoughts. Simply because I look like a girl (and don’t have the balls to cut my hair short) does not mean that I necessarily identify as a girl. Gender is tricky stuff.

About Lizzy / Owen
I’m me. I’m 17. I would prefer to wear boxer shorts than anything else.

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