Untitled, originally uploaded by GomaDot.

Someone wrote…

Today I decided to love my self. Sex, gender, and all.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Nate Wilde recommends…

Ney Matogrosso is a gay Brazilian singer who first became popular in the ’70s. At the time, being gay was considered taboo in Brazil, so he never officially came out. Nevertheless, he didn’t let the conservative values of the country hold him back. He had a stage personality more flamboyant than Elton John and Liberace combined, and it came complete with outlandish costumes and hip shaking only a Brazilian can pull off.

Most impressive of all is that at 79, he is still just as fabulous today as he was all those years ago. As a Brazilian, I could not be prouder to have a musician such as him representing my country.

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feeling feminin, originally uploaded by skinintights.

Loop Planes, starring Chloe Levine: “13-year-old Nick lives with his dad at an amusement park. But today, with the arrival of his mother and a pink-haired girl named Katie, Nick is in for the ride of his life.”

A reader asks…

I am about to attend college and do not yet have a roommate assignment but when I do, I feel it would be at least courteous to inform them of my sexuality. I know that some people would feel uncomfortable in that kind of situation and I respect that. I just don’t know how to approach the subject in a non-alarming way. Any suggestions?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Submitted by Ada, the model. Photography by Rhys.

Someone wrote…

I don’t want my gender to define me. I don’t want to dress a certain way because that’s how my gender “should” dress. I’m not sure if I’m confused, but I certainly don’t like what society says, and someday I’ll figure it out and just be myself. Then I’ll be happy being me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submited by Phin, the model.

Untitled, originally uploaded by Lisa Smit.

You can call me… Goddess Orie.

I identify as… a Femme Pansexual Queer Goddess.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … female pronouns, ze and hir.

I’m attracted to… hearts, not parts. <3

Though androgyny, awkwardness, and confidence are extremely sexy.

When people talk about me, I want them to… say that I am the most fabulous unicorn loving person they have ever met. I know I’ve done my job when I leave people questioning gender – mine – or, hopefully, even their own.

I want people to understand… that I am an artist, and my gender expression and presentation are part of my canvas.

About Goddess Orie
I currently live in Oxford, Ohio. I attend Miami University, and my major is is Women’s Studies. I am also a performance artist and activist who is based locally. I am always looking for new places to share my art. So if you are interested in learning more about me, e-mail me at: goddessorie@gmail.com

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Dante asks…

Summer is here and while I’m ftm I would really like to wear a dress. Assigning gender to clothing is silly and dresses are comfortable when it’s hot out. At the same time though, I don’t want to be read as a girl. Has anyone tried to “pass” while also technically sort of cross-dressing?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Quiero ser un hombre, quiero ser mujer. Originally uploaded by forreasonsunknown.

“I want to be a man, I want to be a woman.”

Someone wrote…

“I think today I realized that I am just a girly man inside this female bodied figure of mine. Now if only people would talk to me about T and not get freaked out when I ask them questions about it.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Jamie Sue recommends…

There’s a lot of good information, plus a good self test, if you will be honest… It can give you a good idea of where you may be at in your life.

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A Little less formal?, originally uploaded by barbaraanne12000.

You can call me… Harmony / Anthony / VG

I identify as… I was wondering if anyone feels this way, or if it is even possible.

This is what I feel– but it doesn’t make any sense at all.

So, pretty much, I feel like a woman trapped in a man’s body trapped in a woman.

I like being Harmony. I like being my mommy’s daughter.
But I feel like my body is wrong. I feel like I should have a penis and muscles and little itty bitty boobies.

I feel like I should be a woman trapped in a man’s body… part time.

I want masculine-ish facial features, I want to have a chest that I could go topless in, but then squeeze into a corset and have lovely tah-tahs.

I want to have a penis when I’m having sex– even if it’s not being used or touched. I want to know its there.

I long to go on testosterone, but I never want to face male-pattern baldness or a pot belly, or have my temper flair up even more or become more insensitive. I want to be womanly and feminine. But I want a cock. I want to wear men’s clothing without people just passing me off as a lesbian. (I have a REALLY feminine face.) But I want to be pretty. I want to be lovely.

I want to wear a dress to my wedding and a tux to the reception.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … It’s okay, you can call me “she” and it won’t really bother me. But the day someone calls me “he,” I will be delighted and giggling for the rest of the week.

I’m attracted to… Anyone really, I have a horrible tendency to crush on the person at school that is kindest to me– not many people like me, so that one person that takes the time to talk to me or joke with me is usually the person I actually have feelings for.

But if we’re just talking sex… I like people that are a mix of masculine/femme features and masculine/femme personality traits.

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect me and not dismiss every word I say.

I want people to understand… I’m weird. I’m obnoxious. I’m passionate. I’m obsessive. I’m protective.

Most people find me annoying, but if you get on my TRUE good side, I will defend you to the death.

About Harmony / Anthony / VG
High school student at a struggling charter school in Minnesota.
Working as hard as I can to graduate this spring (a year early) so I can move to the ever queer friendly and vegan loving Portland, OR.

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Untitled, originally uploaded by malin laney.

Photographer: Diane Arbus. Found on dzzing

Someone wrote…

I wish I could have who I am externally not relate to my gender, but instead to *who I am*.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?