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Kab wrote…
In Cypriot Turkish (a dialect of Turkish) a polite way to address an older relative is ‘abla’ for a girl/woman and ‘abi’ for a boy/man. We have family staying with us at the moment who I’ve not seen in years, and they have a four-year-old son. No matter how many times they tell him to call me ‘abla,’ he still calls me ‘abi.’ It’s great!
What’s your experience?
You can call me… Kate, Katie, or Kay (my Mom calls me this on occasion and I kinda like it)
I identify as… androgynous-femme, lesbian, queer, bi for transmen and occasionally a feminine man, polyamorous but usually monogamous
As far as third-person pronouns go, … she is acceptable, so is they… no male pronouns please
I’m attracted to… anyone with the ability to make me laugh and keep an intelligent and/or political conversation going, ohmyjesus androgyny is pretty much the sexiest thing ever, genderqueer/genderf*ck, body modification (tattoos, piercings, etc), ambition (but not for $)
When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on the me now and not what/who I used to be
I want people to understand… that compliments are welcome unless they involve a “but” (but if you wore more makeup, but if you grew your hair out, but if you dressed more feminine you’d be even more pretty… f*ck you!); I don’t plan on ever transitioning but I would like a gender-neutral name; I HATE it when people refer to me as “butch”
About Kate
I am a queer woman. I go to college, but I still don’t know what I want to be “when I grow up”. I just hope it’s something that makes a difference. I go to protests because I am not afraid to fight for what I believe in. That said, making a difference involves more than holding a sign or getting arrested, the only real way to make change is to get involved in your community. I’m almost all the way to the left and can’t stand right-wing hatemongers. Politically I identify as a Democratic Socialist. Outside of all that I like to listen to music, sing along to the best of my ability, write angsty lovesick poetry, whore the internet, and hang out with my amazing friends.
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decline, originally uploaded by Hannah Lavoie.
A reader recommends…
After looking at the site theoneswelove.org I was taken in by Enid Crow’s. I was stunned by how happy this couple looked. I hadn’t read the bio for the pictures before and decided to read about their story. To my amazement Enid Crow is actually a woman that wears a mustache to attract her partner. Cute! I looked at her personal website and am still touched by the mix of femininity and masculinity that she portrays.
And so it goes when they’re rocking academia and doing gratuitous oodles of crazy wonderful things… sometimes volunteers have to pare down their commitments and move on to that next fierce post for changing the world.
Thus, we’re sad to announce that Jakk, one of our devoted photo curators (who’s been on staff since I first cried “Help me!” last December, 2008) is stepping down.
Jakk
Photo Curator
adrift somewhere in the sea of college academia, jakk is agendered with some happily displayed masculine and feminine qualities for flair. gender pronouns aren’t a big deal for him, and she’ll answer to “she”, “he” and “xe/ze”. xe’s first loves will always be writing and reading, but he also has a thing for wrestling, and artmaking (of any sort), and all things glam, drag, or burlesque. and maybe she dreams of growing up to be the next amanda palmer meets dr. frank-n-furter meets ziggy stardust.
Jakk’s been blogging these photos.
That was a good solid ten months, Jakk, in which you trudged out into the world and found dozens and dozens of gorgeous, interesting gender variant portraits and brought them back like shiny pennies in your palms, offering them to our blog engine with a big excited grin, whispering, “Here.”
We’re happy that your life is full and thriving, we thank you from the bottom of our queerdo hearts for your service, and we wish you all the best on your journey ahead.
Hugs,
Sarah
p.s. You can always see who our amazing volunteers are over here.
You can call me… Luis Pedro aka Strangelfreak
I identify as… Divine creative creation, as genderfluid or queerfabulous. Spiritually driven force that connects us all through humour and sexuality.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … They are sooooo not important to me. Call me he/she/it/ze/hir. I guess that it stopped being an insult when I was a child. It’s not my place to make you have the interpretation that most suits me. I guess that the part about duality really “does not compute” in my brain. I can talk about myself in female and male form, without even noticing. And usually other just get confused when they talk to me =)
Almost everytime I go to the supermarket, the lady there says “Goodbye, pretty,” then she turns red and corrects “Sorry, goodbye… er… handsome,” even though I’ve gone there for the 3 years I’ve been here in Barcelona. This happened to me in Portugal since I was little.
I’m attracted to… Freaks! Don’t know why, but if you’re far from the norm, misfit, genuine, spiritually connected or seen by others as crazy, I have a tendency to go and pick your brain… I call myself ambisexual ’cause it’s not about being a man or a woman for me, it’s about the ambivalence I feel. It’s not a preference. I can become attracted to girls who have masculine behaviour, or boys who are prancing dancing queens. For the most part… I love everyone who has a dark/ironic/acid sense of HUMOUR.
When people talk about me, I want them to… be able to insult me with intelligence, deal well with irony. But most of all rejoice in the diversity that allows us to have surprises, evolve and be able to share this unconditional love that is Life.
I want people to understand… defining something to allow you to understand others is a good thing, but defining something just to list the differences that separate us from each other is never a clever move.
Also that my sense of humour, even though it can be taken as an insult, is only intended to make you relax about your own personal fears… It’s a sign of confidence to be able to laugh about yourself.
About Strangelfreak
Strangelfreak is a photographer and illustrator that loves to have astral conversations with imaginary friends.
You can check out his outrageous, edgy, raw, and humour-filled photos on Strangelfreak.blogspot.com. Warning: most of the pics are considered NSFW (not safe for work). Even though they are FABULOUS, I wouldn’t want for anyone to get in trouble.
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trans-film-fest-boys, originally uploaded by Alex Kingsley.
Someone wrote…
I don’t like getting read as a straight girl. Or as a lesbian. Or as a young boy. But that’s the closest they ever get to the truth. How do I learn to present as an ungendered asexual?
What’s your experience?
You can call me… Ludo
I identify as… becoming/upandcoming.
An ex-lesbian, postmodern queer, genderqueer, female-sexed, fag, bee oh eye not bee oh why. Poly-sympathiser. Me.
Depending on my relationship dynamic with a friend/partner, my presentation often unintentionally alters; this often can cause issues.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … ‘She’ and ‘Her’ used to make me shrivel up inside, but I think that was before I truly figured it all out. Call me what you want; generally I’ll answer. Occasionally, I like masculinised pronouns, but not just for the sake of it. Usually I use ‘they’ and ‘their’ myself, however.
I’m attracted to… People (who play with gendered and non-gendered realities and dynamics).
Femmes when I’m their queer prince.
Bois to wrangle with and get muddied knees.
Geeks and academics.
When people talk about me, I want them to… hate me or love me. Challenge me.
Remember that gender diversity goes beyond presentation and realise that binary pretension within our own queer/trans community can be extremely damaging to individuals.
I want people to understand… that identities are like sushi restaurants. Both comprise of menus and menus of options and have a neverending conveyor-belt of choices, which can be modified to suit both situation and palate.
About Ludo
A young queer activist based near Bristol, UK. Training to become a social worker. Still learning.
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Sailor Eli: "O Rly?", originally uploaded by te.menosquetres.
Someone wrote…
I was wearing my favourite men’s jeans and top and just having a boy day when some kid asked me if I was a guy or a girl. I simply replied, “Yes,” and walked off with a smile on my face, to their confusion.
What’s your experience?
You can call me… Mae
I identify as… Genderqueer, Third Gender, Butch, Trans, Transmasculine…
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Honestly, as long as you don’t call me “it” I’m fine. I’ve used male, female and gender neutral pronouns (all in one day, I might add!)
I’m attracted to… my wife.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Feel comfortable. I am an educator as well as a Trans person, so enjoy teaching about Trans identities, as long as my audience is willing to learn with an open mind and open heart.
I want people to understand… Trans people are everywhere… whether or not they know it. Not all Trans people are the same. Not everyone fits into the FtM or MtF spectrum (or the male-female spectrum for that matter).
About Mae
M. Mae, a public speaker and activist for gender diversity, has lectured at universities, colleges and high schools across the country. To date, Mae has spoken to over 3,000 students and educators from coast to coast in a variety of settings: health and sociology classes, rallies, even testifying before the Oregon House of Representatives. Commonly speaking on the topics of Transgender and Transexuality, Mae brings her enthusiasm and expansive knowledge of gender theory to life by integrating her personal experiences as a transgender, GenderQueer, lesbian.
Blog: trans1l.blogspot.com
Website: MaeDunn.com
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Androgyny Sells, originally uploaded by Jazzy Lemon.
A reader recommends…
The Parenthetical Girls is a band with beautiful lyrics, and melodys and possibly the most beautiful male lead vocalist i’ve ever seen. They dont restrict the content of their songs to one gender and tend to sing about everything from childbirth to death by train.
You can call me… Amelia
I identify as… a lady. A human being. A child in a 20-year-old body. A rabbit.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … please use female ones. Though I have been toying with the idea that gender is irrelevant, society and my upbringing cause me to take great offense at being mistaken as male.
I’m attracted to… people, not genders. Also glasses that aid the vision of an intelligent mind.
When people talk about me, I want them to… say nothing they wouldn’t feel comfortable saying to my face.
About Amelia
I am an artist. My favorite subject is the human form. I have, as of late, taken a great interest in the definitions of beauty and gender. Though I have yet to form a concrete thesis, the idea that neither truly exists excites and fascinates me.
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Someone wrote…
Filling out an application form for a job today, I noticed that in the ‘tick your gender’ section, alongside the Male/Female boxes they had FTM and MTF transgender boxes. While I was pleased that they acknowledged there is more outside the gender binary, I started wondering, shouldn’t there have been an Intersex/Genderqueer box? Or an ‘Other’ box? Should there have been boxes at all?
What’s your experience?
You can call me… Kab or Lil
I identify as… genderless/fruitloop/hornbeast
As far as third-person pronouns go, … use anything. I myself use a mix of pronouns for myself and often switch between them mid-sentence. Female pronouns feel the weirdest, but I guess that’s because I was born female and it feels wrong.
I’m attracted to… personalities, curves, and skin. We all have each of those, I just prefer some versions over others.
When people talk about me, I want them to… take into consideration that I have feelings and have some respect, even if they don’t understand me.
I want people to understand… that no one’s just “normal,” we all have our quirks and differences.
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Vulnerable , originally uploaded by jamesismtvone.
