You can call me… kitty. Or nothing at all.
I identify as… genderqueer, androgyne, agendered, polyamorous, pansexual, inhuman, invisible.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … everybody uses female pronouns, but each time it’s like a punch in the gut. I would prefer ey/em/eir, they/them/their, it/it/its, and I love the sound of xe/xem/xyr, but I don’t feel comfortable asking for them. My loved ones just call me kitty, and don’t use pronouns.
I’m attracted to… my husband and our boyfriend, and my girlfriend. Compassion, imagination, openmindedness, openheartedness, intelligence, self-awareness, and responsibility. Physically, it’s all over the board, though I have a special soft spot for androgynes, wide hips, flat chests, and anyone who is strong enough to pick me up. Anyone who makes me feel safe.
When people talk about me, I want them to… talk TO me instead. If they must talk ABOUT me, I would prefer it if my gender was left entirely out of the equation, and that they realize that my gender is none of their business.
I want people to understand… that gender is secondary to personhood. That it’s personal enough that it’s not safe to make assumptions. That good intentions don’t eclipse hurtful actions.
About Kitty
kitty is a nobody
kitty paints for a living
kitty likes cats, yes
kitty isn’t short for anything, stop asking
kitty likes you just as you are
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