Someone wrote…

I’m sick of being told “You’re not a guy yet,” when I was never a girl to start with.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

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A great poem by Ivan Coyote about why femmes of all genders are appreciated.

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You can call me… Victoria, V, Toria, whatever you’d like.

I identify as… Pansexual. Genderqueer. Gender fucker. Sometimes dyke. Mosty myself.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like my name. No need for pronouns, please.

I’m attracted to… Sense of humor. Androgyny. Good grammar. Everything. Usually female bodies and gay men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know I can hear every word they say.

I want people to understand… that the idea of binary gender is strictly for government use only.

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Someone wrote…

It doesn’t even occur to anyone to question my gender because I wear girly clothing. I like cute things and I can never find pants that fit right. Since when did clothes denote gender? I don’t care if people call me “sir” or “ma’am,” but I wish that people thought “sir” was an option.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

A group of Los Angeles queers vie for the title of Queerest Queer.

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McGee asks…

I’m in transition right now, and I’m planning to use male pronouns first year of college. But that means if I apply as female, I’ll end up as the only man in an all-girl dormitory, and if I apply as male, they’ll think I’m joking and my parents will be mad.

How can I transition as easily as possible, especially when it comes to checking that little box?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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You can call me… anything at all; I turn my head no matter what name has been called.

I identify as… genderqueer, soft-butch, androgynous, queer, trans, dyke.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer the singular “they,” but most people refer to me using feminine ones (it’s my birth-defect, missing the y-chromosome). I would love to be referred to by hir, but it doesn’t bother me really.

I’m attracted to… generally those of the feminine variety, but I’m not going to let gender come between love.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that I am more than just a girl, or a guy; that I am who I am; that my gender does not concern them.

I want people to understand… that a human is a human, regardless of gender, sexuality and race.

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Someone wrote…

My mom died five years ago and I now see how gender-neutral she was. Thank you for giving me a neutral name, and for understanding my choices of clothing and understanding my dislike of third-person pronouns. I see now how much you really knew about doing things that aren’t in the male/female binary.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

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Eyes, Paris, originally uploaded by s i a m.

Meike asks…

I’m in a college bell choir. The guys wear tuxes and the girls wear identical dresses. I’ve put up with my bell choir dress for two years now, and this year I won’t have to since I’m studying abroad for the year; however, when I return I want to wear a tux for my senior year. I was thinking of asking my director about this first, and while I don’t want to I might go to the college administration if my director doesn’t allow me to wear a tux.

Has anyone else gone through similar situations?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Jodi, originally uploaded by Artifex Melissius.

Coury wrote…

I can’t figure out how to exist as myself. I love gender. I hate having one. What does one do with that?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

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You can call me… Crystal.

I identify as… a fiercely feminist lesbian who is always comfortable with whatever gender she happens to wake up as.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … “she” and “her” are fine by me.

I’m attracted to… the female body. Women of all sorts, and the occasional quiet man with a beard. Above all, an impressive vocabulary.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that I am sensitive to their opinions, even if I’d rather not be.

I want people to understand… that even though I present as female and I am comfortable in my female body, that does not mean I cannot have as complex a gender identity as the next person.

About Crystal
Crystal is a college freshman living in Virginia.
She loves pizza, poetry, and girls with guitars.
She is proud to have a ladyfriend who knows how to effectively employ the word “acrimonious” <3.

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