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Tor recommends…

Probably the most entertaining half-hour of gender study ever! Halberstam makes me want to add a minor in Gender Studies to my degree…

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You can call me… Renae Ann or Annie. :)

I identify as… someone who just recently came to understand that, despite my male body, deep inside I’m female.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … for here, I’d like being addressed as “she” or “her.”

I’m attracted to… Men and women, but especially funny, intelligent people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see that, even though I may be coming from a different place than many other people, I am still a person, a person who loves, and cares, and feels.

I want people to understand… I know that it may be difficult to accept me in the way I’ve discovered, I would hope that they can find room for me to allow me to be myself.

About Renae Ann
I’m an older person (it’s been 30 years since I was 25 :) ) who is just now coming to terms with my gender issues.
I’m a father with three adult children and a wife that I love very much…and they know nothing about what I’m going through.
I thought I had dealt with this stuff long ago, but only recently I’ve begun to understand my place in all this…and I have a very long way to go. :)

» Define yourself. «

Edited Self, originally uploaded by karileaves.

Someone wrote…

Sometimes, when I’m around women I feel like a fraud, and when I’m around men I feel like a failure. It’s as if my body is a perfect but unwanted drag act.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

RBG recommends…

Torchwood is a spinoff of Doctor Who, starring Captain Jack and his own crew back on Earth.

The lead actor, John Barrowman, is openly gay, and his character is a pansexual guy that flirts with everything and everyone.

Almost every character on the show has relations with every sex. It explores gender in a loose but comfortable way, and opens your mind without your even realizing it.

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waffle scouts, originally uploaded by hainspoint.

Why not see what happens past the next gender role?

You can call me… Yulan.

I identify as… genderqueer, but I identify as lesbian to make things easier for people. Jamaican trying to interpret life and, above all, a Human being with feelings.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … teachers usually call me she/her, but my Spanish teacher called me senor on several occasions and it made my day, also small children tend to mistake me for a boy. I find it cute. But as far as pronouns go, it doesn’t matter but a male pronoun tends to cheer me up.

I’m attracted to… artistic girls who look like they could be a boy. Genderqueer/fluid peeps. Honesty, laughs and joy all around. Hip Hip Hoorayyy!

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize I am who I am and say “my oh my wasn’t that just fabulous?”

I want people to understand… that life isn’t black or white and neither is gender. So buckle up kids!

About Yulan
I’m a junior going to school in New York. I’m an immigrant with a Jamaican accent that people still mistake for British/Irish or on the rare occasion German. I WILL attend SVA and major in Graphic Design and most of all I’ll be happy doing it. Oh, and I have a tumblr!

» Define yourself. «

, originally uploaded by directdavidblue.

Someone wrote…

I still wear my hair long, and shave my legs, and don’t wear men’s underwear with my male clothing, but that doesn’t mean I’m any less of a guy inside. In fact, if people were more accepting, those things would change and I could make my outside match my inside better.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Tights as pants, originally uploaded by dougaa.

very smart, originally uploaded by unexpectedtales.

A reader recommends…

Written in 1966, this song was intended to be about a time in the future when parents can choose their children’s gender and a family chooses to have four girls, but end up with three girls and a boy, so they decide to pretend the fourth child is female.

However, I find it could just as easily be a song being told from the point of view of someone expected to act female, but longs to be male.

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Cydne asks…

I’m so afraid that if I become myself, the people I find attractive will not find me attractive. I wish everyone was pansexual, then my gender niche would be acceptable. How do I get the courage to change my body to be how I want it?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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.woran man glaubt ist was man bekommt und zum glueck gibts die taeuschung, originally uploaded by Herr Benini.

Someone wrote…

Why either/or? Why not both or neither?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

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You can call me… Rae

I identify as… Genderqueer butch boi

As far as third-person pronouns go, … anything that shows a combo of male/female instead of strictly in one realm or the other.

I’m attracted to… queer femmes and MTFs—basically I really like girly-girls; intelligence, a good sense of humor, a laid back attitude, and a love of animals, books, and the arts.

When people talk about me, I want them to… understand and respect my gender identity and not try to put me in a box with other women just because I’m a bio female, that really pisses me off.

I want people to understand… that I’m open enough to talk to people if they have questions and not to assume shit about me instead of asking outright.

About Rae
I’m a 23-year-old college grad with a bachelors in Psychology. I’ve been partnered to a wonderful queer femme for the past 3.5 years, and we live together in our tiny little apartment with our two cats.
Three years ago, my mother disowned me for being a ‘freak’ and kicked me out of her house. I lived with my in-laws until we got our own place. I’m done with the tears and the sympathy—if you don’t accept me, then I don’t need you in my life, period. I can choose my own family.

» Define yourself. «

a little bit dapper details, originally uploaded by Le Silly.