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TransPanTastic is a podcast about gender, identity, orientation, and all the life that happens around them. George is a straight FtM transgender man, and Jess is his pansexual nonbinary wife. They have kids, and jobs, and a life together, and every other Saturday they release a short (10-20 mins) conversation about what’s happening in their world, with topics ranging from transition to kids to work to, well, everything else in their world. The first few episodes are up, and I have it on good authority that at least another months’ worth has been recorded and queued for release.

Check it out on PodBean, PodFeed or iTunes.

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Someone wrote…

I am finally feeling the courage to express who I am.

A wonderful mixture of colors and hues and a star in the spectrum of gender.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

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Riley asks…

I have identified as genderqueer, using neutral pronouns for about three years now. Occasionally throughout my entire life I’ve stumbled on thinking about FTM transitioning, but over the past 7-8 months it’s been on my mind constantly. I have watched every video I can from the FTM YouTube/Tumblr community and I am going to a Trans*/Questioning support group to try and figure things out.
My QUESTION is, to any FTM trans* people, how did you know it was time to medically move forward and start the name change process?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Submitted by Crisse, the model and photographer.

“I take cosmetology and the textbooks have rather… odd expressions on the faces upon the cover. What are they looking at? What are they thinking about? Also, I see their gender as being flexible to the person who is looking at the book.”

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Someone wrote…

I’ve always identified as genderqueer, but I am becoming more confused about the direction I am headed in. Lately I’ve been packing at night. It makes me nervous but excited at the same time. Quietly thrilled. I wish I knew what this meant — I wish I knew where to go from here.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by fluffy, the model and photographer.

“I identify as neutrois. Recently I finally decided that it’d be easier to transition to female than to keep getting misgendered as male. I have a long way ahead of me.”

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Andy Coate recommends…

I run a blog where I talk about Unitarian Universalism and trans stuff… and the intersection of the two, of course. On my blog stats page I can see what search terms people have used to come across my blog, and over and over I was seeing a repeating theme that, essentially, boils down to “Can I be religious if I’m trans?” One person flat out searched “Are transgender people allowed to pray?”

So I started a blog project, asking the ministers and lay leaders I knew to submit prayers, meditations, affirmations, or just general kind thoughts for the transgender community.

The response has been beautiful and heartwarming. Check out the prayers and, if you like, post your own.

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Submitted by Leigh, the model and photographer.

“I have very short hair and dress in men’s clothing. I once asked my boyfriend if I embarrassed him by the way I looked, because he’s straight as an arrow… I’ve feared rejection for the way I dress. He said, ‘Of course you don’t embarrass me. I love you for you, not the way you dress or wear your hair. I love YOU.'”

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Someone wrote…

I love it when some restaurants are so tiny that they only have a single bathroom stall — it’s the only gender-neutral toilet around.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by Siiri Bambi Kanervisto, the model and photographer.

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You can call me… Elliot or EJ, depending on what my gender is doing that way. Pick one you prefer, I won’t mind.

I identify as… a transmasculine, bigender, agender, genderless, very queer asexual goth-hipster.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him/his or ey/em… Well any gender-neutral pronouns but ey/em are my preference. “He” for when I’m feeling like a complete lad, ey/em for when I feel too good for your gender boundaries.

I’m attracted to… no one, I’m what they call asexual. Well, more or less. I’ll occasionally crave sex or indulge in it, but it’s very rare and it’s not at a specfic person. Technically I’m on the asexual spectrum and I’m grey-asexual, but often I’ll just refer to myself as asexual due to me never really experiencing sexual attraction.

Now for romantically, I’m sort of greyandroromantic (I romantically like masculinity but only very occasionally). I don’t experience infatuation or crushes, I just fall head over heals in love with someone on the masculinity side of the gender spectrum occasionally.

That being said, I think about 90% of people are cute and adorable. Gender-non-comforming men, non-binary folk, boys with long hair, girls with short hair, girls with bright hair, body mods, people who are adorably dorky, people with tattoos and piercings, short guys, tall guys, short girls, tall girls. I just think every outcast of any description is beautiful.

Basically~ I like adorable, dorky intelligent people who can be my non-repressive romantic interest who respects my occasional boundaries. Quite specific? Good job I managed to find it then.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be respectful, realise that how they treat other people who don’t quite fit sexuality or genderwise can effect me, realise not everyone fits into a binary gender or sexuality. Accept not everyone is interested in romance and sex (at least, not most of the time) and also realise that if they want to ask me questions about my identity that’s just fine (I’ll happily answer anything as long as it’s respectful). I just wish they’d avoid assumptions about me.

I want people to understand… how many people don’t fit into the gender-binary, how many people aren’t sexuals or romantics, I don’t care if people make mistakes… As long as they are polite and respectful about it.

About Elliot or EJ, depending on what my gender is doing that way. Pick one you prefer, I won’t mind which.
I go by Elliot most of the time. I’m a writer, working up to the professional level piece by piece. I’m fairly passionate about reading and try to keep an open mind about everything. I’m pretty much at home in a dusty library, with a cat and a cup of cocoa. Also, rooftops. I also like cuddling people platonically on rainy days.

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Submitted by Anjelica.

“Last night in uniform, lost by one point. Defensive nose guard. First girl in WV state history to participate in a single A state playoff game.”

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Someone wrote…

I am disabled, and I identify as FTM. I observed that everytime someone wants to know something about my disability, they start with “Excuse me, I don’t want to be rude/intrusive but what do you have with your leg ?” And I always answer them kindly since I have no problem being asked about it.

But when it comes to gender, those same people don’t even understand that asking “Are you a boy or a girl ?” “Do you want a phalloplasty ?” or “Does it mean you won’t have kids ?” is actually rude and intrusive.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

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A trailer for Passing Ellenville, a documentary on two rural trans youth in Ellenville, NY.
The kickstarter campaign is already successful, but still open/looking for additional funding till Wednesday Oct 16.

Submitted by Jessy, the model and photographer.

“This is me looking the most dapper/gentlemanly that I ever have, and I loved it! I’ve wanted to wear a bow tie for a long time, and I finally did!”

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Someone wrote…

I realised recently I’ve never heard anyone say out loud words like trans*, ze, neutrois … This made me reflect that in a wider sense only discussing things online is great but I also feel like I’m learning to describe an identity that finally feels right to me, as if I’m trying to learn a new language from a book without a pronunciation guide. I hope one day I’ll meet some other speakers and we can work out how to have a conversation and hopefully forgive lack of fluency.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… J, I guess … I get new nickname wherever I go.

I identify as… male, but I’m supposed to be FTM, but never feel like that. Just cuz my body used to be 100% female doesn’t mean I’m female too. I’m just another human being, and that’s about it, really.

I’m First Nation from northern Canada and an Alaskan native. Had top surgery, and I hope one day to get bottom surgery, but I’m broke right now and it looks like it’s gonna be the way for loooooooong time cuz I can’t really work. Always been male and thought everyone else felt so awful inside like me when I was growing up. Hopeful to get bottom surgery sooner rather than later. ;)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him/his – no exceptions.

I’m attracted to… someone who will actually go on date with me and have a sexual relationship and not turn around and treat me like shit cuz of my body! I used to work in sex trade, and that was the only kind of relationship I ever had where I wasn’t threatened afterward. Most “normal” people I try to date just in end threats to out me or threats to my life. Would just be nice have a decent sexual relationship with someone that I can be close to. I have gone out with men, women, gay guys, bi etc. I don’t know what my orientation is and I don’t care!!!!!!!!! People have real hard time with that, but honestly one day I hope to find the right person, get married and move up north. Run trap line out in the bush and live off the grid. That’s my dream. No kids though, I’ll stick to being an uncle or a godfather. ;)

When people talk about me, I want them to… just be decent with me. Know I have FASD (fetal alcohol syndrome disorder) and developmental delay. Also sometimes I don’t understand everything people say and my memory can be real bad. Try real hard but my brain just sucks sometimes. Just be nice and not be rude to me or make fun of me. Make it so we can laugh. I love to make people laugh, I do it all the time. Also don’t be a racist prick.

I want people to understand… I’m happy just as male, don’t want to be known as FTM, but just wanna be able to have normal sexual relationships and be happy with a partner. Also, I have disabilities, so I don’t act like a regular person. Hate being discriminated against by people cuz of disability an/or body. I want to try to have physical relationships.

My culture is also real important to me. I’m First Nation from Canada, and culture is very important to me in what I do every single day. Proud of my culture and what I do. Pretty easy going kinda guy, love to make people laugh and have a good time. Don’t do drugs or drink no more, was an addict over 10 years to hard drugs and alcoholic for two. Never wanna go back to that hell.

I’m a very spirit-driven person, mostly got to do with my culture. I love to do that work with my culture cuz it helps me get through the day. Any chance I get I go swimming, doesn’t matter what the temperature of the water is. You can’t stop me from going swimming. I swim all year, even when there’s a few feet of snow on the ground! I don’t have family, was put in foster care when I was a kid, and family don’t want nothing to do with me no more and that’s not gonna change soon. They’re mostly just junkies and drunks anyways. That’s about all I can think of anyways…sorry if I don’t write so good.

About J
21/male/First Nation/Canada
I started my transition when was 13 and I don’t live out at all. And that’s the way I like it. ;) Still like to be involved with people who accept me for me and don’t judge me based on who I am cuz I can’t change that. I am the way I was made by my creator to be. Love talking and writing to people that I can be honest with just for fun.

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